mustfirstregister
Master Don Juan
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This is one of my favo days and its next week. What are your plans?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GF yes. a regular plate or girl you have just went on a few dates with no.Should a DJ buy his girlfriend anything for valentines day?
Hitting the bar. Gotta break that dry spell somehow.mustfirstregister said:This is one of my favo days and its next week. What are your plans?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hahahaha!backbreaker said:so I call myself slick and really tried to surprise my wife with the trip to hawaii, so I went through the labor of printing out an envelope and i put the tickets in the mailbox with the mail. even put a little postage stamp on it.
when she got home I wasn't there. I was expecting you know this call from her all excited or what not, didn't come. okay so i walk through the door and she is acting pretty normal. I'm like okay.. hey did you check the mail. yeah i checked it, you didn't get anything lol I'm like humm... you sure you checked the mail. she said yeah i checked it. long story short she thought it was junk mail and didn't bother opening it and threw it away lol. so i had to dig through the trash and get it out and give her the tickets. anyway she's very happy, just didn't go how i planned lol.
I think it's nice. They don't make MEN like that anymore.TheMale said:i saw something this morning on facebook about valentine's day:
" So today I was in Hallmark buying my mom a Happy Birthday card when I noticed this old man stnding in front of the Valentines card section contemplating which one to get. I decide to go over and I ask him “Are you getting a Valentine’s Day for your wife?” in which he replies 'No my wife died 3 years ago from breast cancer but I still buy her roses and a card and bring them to her grave to prove to her that she was the only one that will ever have my heart' "
what do you guys think about that old man ? DJ ? AFC ? just desperate ?![]()
lol... "never dig through the trash can... you may never find what you'd looling for...."backbreaker said:so I call myself slick and really tried to surprise my wife with the trip to hawaii, so I went through the labor of printing out an envelope and i put the tickets in the mailbox with the mail. even put a little postage stamp on it.
when she got home I wasn't there. I was expecting you know this call from her all excited or what not, didn't come. okay so i walk through the door and she is acting pretty normal. I'm like okay.. hey did you check the mail. yeah i checked it, you didn't get anything lol I'm like humm... you sure you checked the mail. she said yeah i checked it. long story short she thought it was junk mail and didn't bother opening it and threw it away lol. so i had to dig through the trash and get it out and give her the tickets. anyway she's very happy, just didn't go how i planned lol.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.