"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Valentines Day: Question for those spinning plates

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I'll admit, I've never spun multiple plates as once, but there's a chance that I may be very soon. As I was doing some grocery shopping and saw all the Valentines decoration it hit me. If you are spinning plates, how do you handle Valentines? Any girl you're seeing is going to want to go out the night of Valentines Day. I can't imagine saying, "Uhhh, I don't feel like going out for Valentines Day." How do you handle that situation where you might be dating different girls and they all want to do something on Valentines?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm a tom leykis listener and i avoid all of my women around valentines day and then hookup with them afterwards. im not going to get suckered into buying any woman dinner or gifts on this special "romantic' day.
 

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speakeasy said:
I can't imagine saying, "Uhhh, I don't feel like going out for Valentines Day."
You're a man and you do what you want to do. if you dont want to go out then dont! stop letting women pressure you into spending your hard earned money and time on sh1t you dont want to do.
 

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you avoid the hell out of them around V day! Or do a lunch date and then dinner date make an excuse why you can't go to dinner with the lunch girl.

Tell them you take your mother out on V-day since your dad died or you have a family gathering, you have to work etc.

I got lucky last year I had about a two hour distance between my plates and the distance wasn't feasible on Vday cause my Jeep had just died.
 

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I don't celebrate Vagina Day even if I'm in a LTR.

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Just tell them you don't believe in a holiday that's shoved down our throats so card companies, chocolate companies, and jewelers can make money.
That's pretty much what I do, and I often add that I don't celebrate an American holiday (as I live in Australia).

Be prepared to lose a plate or two after that though. I lost one last year for that reason, although that night I took a bunch of single girls out for drinks after dance class for a group V-Day celebration and ended up with a new plate.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just tell them you spend V-day with your mother since she is the most important woman in your life.
 
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