"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Valentines Day: Question for those spinning plates

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I'll admit, I've never spun multiple plates as once, but there's a chance that I may be very soon. As I was doing some grocery shopping and saw all the Valentines decoration it hit me. If you are spinning plates, how do you handle Valentines? Any girl you're seeing is going to want to go out the night of Valentines Day. I can't imagine saying, "Uhhh, I don't feel like going out for Valentines Day." How do you handle that situation where you might be dating different girls and they all want to do something on Valentines?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm a tom leykis listener and i avoid all of my women around valentines day and then hookup with them afterwards. im not going to get suckered into buying any woman dinner or gifts on this special "romantic' day.
 

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speakeasy said:
I can't imagine saying, "Uhhh, I don't feel like going out for Valentines Day."
You're a man and you do what you want to do. if you dont want to go out then dont! stop letting women pressure you into spending your hard earned money and time on sh1t you dont want to do.
 

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you avoid the hell out of them around V day! Or do a lunch date and then dinner date make an excuse why you can't go to dinner with the lunch girl.

Tell them you take your mother out on V-day since your dad died or you have a family gathering, you have to work etc.

I got lucky last year I had about a two hour distance between my plates and the distance wasn't feasible on Vday cause my Jeep had just died.
 

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I don't celebrate Vagina Day even if I'm in a LTR.

theunflushables said:
Just tell them you don't believe in a holiday that's shoved down our throats so card companies, chocolate companies, and jewelers can make money.
That's pretty much what I do, and I often add that I don't celebrate an American holiday (as I live in Australia).

Be prepared to lose a plate or two after that though. I lost one last year for that reason, although that night I took a bunch of single girls out for drinks after dance class for a group V-Day celebration and ended up with a new plate.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just tell them you spend V-day with your mother since she is the most important woman in your life.
 
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