Giovanni Casanova
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You want me, don't you?Originally posted by Liz
The words a girl dreams to hear!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Valentines Day discussion thread (Merged threads)
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
Hey Liz,
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
Re: Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Gio has a girlfiend and who knows she might be his wife someday, and I have a boyfriend who will be my husband someday in the next year and a half.
Sorry, otherwise I think that that Gio guy is pretty HOT!
I'm flattered that you would think of such a thingOriginally posted by The Edge
Hey Liz,
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
Gio has a girlfiend and who knows she might be his wife someday, and I have a boyfriend who will be my husband someday in the next year and a half.
Sorry, otherwise I think that that Gio guy is pretty HOT!
vonbock
Senior Don Juan
Is sending flowers for VAlentines AFC?
Man, I work with all women and I see how they brag to each other about how thir bf/ hubbies buys them this and that. REally, only reason why I think they admire VAlentines day is because they can brag to their friends what their sig other did for them. I know this one guy who has never sent his wife flowers or done anything special or her. She takes care of him, cooks, clean and doesn't pout or argue. What do you all think?
Man, I work with all women and I see how they brag to each other about how thir bf/ hubbies buys them this and that. REally, only reason why I think they admire VAlentines day is because they can brag to their friends what their sig other did for them. I know this one guy who has never sent his wife flowers or done anything special or her. She takes care of him, cooks, clean and doesn't pout or argue. What do you all think?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
RyKnOw
Senior Don Juan
you can if your in a LTR or married but if your not dating dont waste ur money send a card
I would'nt waste the money......you have to be serious with someone to buy something like flowers. I would'nt bother....spend the money you were going to spend on flowers and add it to your DJ clothing.
General rule of thumb.
Don't send flowers unless you're 6 months into a relationship..
Besides shes just going to look at them for maybe 5 minutes then place them in water and she'll forget about them and they will die in 3-4 days time anyway.. I think it's a crock.
Don't send flowers unless you're 6 months into a relationship..
Besides shes just going to look at them for maybe 5 minutes then place them in water and she'll forget about them and they will die in 3-4 days time anyway.. I think it's a crock.
RyKnOw
Senior Don Juan
exactly they dont appreciate the things men do for them
PortugueseMeatball
Senior Don Juan
Flowers?
I think the only occasions I bought flowers was for funerals. So, I don't give flowers to girls; they may get the wrong idea.
I think the only occasions I bought flowers was for funerals. So, I don't give flowers to girls; they may get the wrong idea.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SomeGuy
Senior Don Juan
Everyone hates Valentine's Day...this is what happened to me today,
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
Everyone hates Valentine's Day...this is what happened to me today,
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
Congratulations man! What did you say? heh. I don't think there is anything wrong with a card and flowers IF you do it the right way and the relationship is (sorta) established. I am dating 2 girls at this time, and both of them have strong feelings for me. I know that I can get away with flowers and I card because it makes them feel special. I'll probably give them both a rose and a card, write something nice in the card, and surprise them at work with it.
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Giovanni Casanova
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Call me old-fashioned, but I wouldn't be able to accept a proposal from a girl.
For the record, I wouldn't accept a proposal from a guy, either.
Oh, and regarding the question at hand: The act of buying flowers for a girl for is not AFC in and of itself... it's the circumstances that will determine that. If you're giving flowers to some girl that you've been admiring from afar for three years, yeah, that's AFC. But if you're getting your wife flowers, no, that's not AFC. It's all about the context.
VeryBadGirl
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Speaking of flowers, I just had some delivered to my office....
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
TheManiac
Don Juan
what to do for Valentines...
Ok fellas, heres the deal:
I have a girlfriend who ive been seeing for a little while now and we dated for a bit too, this is our first Valentines together and shes never really had a big valentines day before.
thanks to her bi*ch of a roommate who told her that I had all this stuff planned (which i dont!), my girl will be very dissapointed tommorow (were doing Valentines tommorow instead of today)
if i dont have all types of small things planned to do with her throughout the day, I have reservations at a decently nice restraunt uptown and i have some flowers ordered, but i need advice on some actual stuff to do tommorow during the day before tommorow night, my brain's really fried right now and i cant think of anything, so ANY ideas would help or at least get me thinkin in the right direction.
Ok fellas, heres the deal:
I have a girlfriend who ive been seeing for a little while now and we dated for a bit too, this is our first Valentines together and shes never really had a big valentines day before.
thanks to her bi*ch of a roommate who told her that I had all this stuff planned (which i dont!), my girl will be very dissapointed tommorow (were doing Valentines tommorow instead of today)
if i dont have all types of small things planned to do with her throughout the day, I have reservations at a decently nice restraunt uptown and i have some flowers ordered, but i need advice on some actual stuff to do tommorow during the day before tommorow night, my brain's really fried right now and i cant think of anything, so ANY ideas would help or at least get me thinkin in the right direction.
TheManiac
Don Juan
come on guys, one post would help alot here, i dont have too much time i can wait
I was thinking about giving her a massage. im not sure if her roommate will be there or not
I was thinking about giving her a massage. im not sure if her roommate will be there or not
Cecilia
Don Juan
Massage would definitely be good. If you can cook, the majority of women loves it when a guy cooks for them. This should be a quite. relaxing time for both of you.
Seems like you're hooked
Seems like you're hooked
TheManiac
Don Juan
yeah, a bit, but more me being "hooked", i just really want this to be a good valentines day for her tommorow, none of her past bfs never put alot of thought into the stuff they did for her, and at least tommorow I want to be the stereotypical boyfriend she fantasizes about for Vday
Wow, i guess I am whipped
Wow, i guess I am whipped
Cecilia
Don Juan
I'm happy for you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.