Giovanni Casanova
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You want me, don't you?Originally posted by Liz
The words a girl dreams to hear!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Valentines Day discussion thread (Merged threads)
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
Hey Liz,
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
Re: Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Gio has a girlfiend and who knows she might be his wife someday, and I have a boyfriend who will be my husband someday in the next year and a half.
Sorry, otherwise I think that that Gio guy is pretty HOT!
I'm flattered that you would think of such a thingOriginally posted by The Edge
Hey Liz,
Look at it this way, you're a cool chick, and Gio never get's his cage rattled...(Except when he's fending of flames from that Demon-guy!!)....
So whadda-you say! You all for the first Sosuave LUV connection???
Gio has a girlfiend and who knows she might be his wife someday, and I have a boyfriend who will be my husband someday in the next year and a half.
Sorry, otherwise I think that that Gio guy is pretty HOT!
vonbock
Senior Don Juan
Is sending flowers for VAlentines AFC?
Man, I work with all women and I see how they brag to each other about how thir bf/ hubbies buys them this and that. REally, only reason why I think they admire VAlentines day is because they can brag to their friends what their sig other did for them. I know this one guy who has never sent his wife flowers or done anything special or her. She takes care of him, cooks, clean and doesn't pout or argue. What do you all think?
Man, I work with all women and I see how they brag to each other about how thir bf/ hubbies buys them this and that. REally, only reason why I think they admire VAlentines day is because they can brag to their friends what their sig other did for them. I know this one guy who has never sent his wife flowers or done anything special or her. She takes care of him, cooks, clean and doesn't pout or argue. What do you all think?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RyKnOw
Senior Don Juan
you can if your in a LTR or married but if your not dating dont waste ur money send a card
I would'nt waste the money......you have to be serious with someone to buy something like flowers. I would'nt bother....spend the money you were going to spend on flowers and add it to your DJ clothing.
General rule of thumb.
Don't send flowers unless you're 6 months into a relationship..
Besides shes just going to look at them for maybe 5 minutes then place them in water and she'll forget about them and they will die in 3-4 days time anyway.. I think it's a crock.
Don't send flowers unless you're 6 months into a relationship..
Besides shes just going to look at them for maybe 5 minutes then place them in water and she'll forget about them and they will die in 3-4 days time anyway.. I think it's a crock.
RyKnOw
Senior Don Juan
exactly they dont appreciate the things men do for them
PortugueseMeatball
Senior Don Juan
Flowers?
I think the only occasions I bought flowers was for funerals. So, I don't give flowers to girls; they may get the wrong idea.
I think the only occasions I bought flowers was for funerals. So, I don't give flowers to girls; they may get the wrong idea.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SomeGuy
Senior Don Juan
Everyone hates Valentine's Day...this is what happened to me today,
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
Everyone hates Valentine's Day...this is what happened to me today,
I gave her a card
I gave her a picture of us
I gave her a box of chocolates she loves
I told her "Happy Valentine's Day!"
in return, she proposed.
I am blown away.
Congratulations man! What did you say? heh. I don't think there is anything wrong with a card and flowers IF you do it the right way and the relationship is (sorta) established. I am dating 2 girls at this time, and both of them have strong feelings for me. I know that I can get away with flowers and I card because it makes them feel special. I'll probably give them both a rose and a card, write something nice in the card, and surprise them at work with it.
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Giovanni Casanova
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Call me old-fashioned, but I wouldn't be able to accept a proposal from a girl.
For the record, I wouldn't accept a proposal from a guy, either.
Oh, and regarding the question at hand: The act of buying flowers for a girl for is not AFC in and of itself... it's the circumstances that will determine that. If you're giving flowers to some girl that you've been admiring from afar for three years, yeah, that's AFC. But if you're getting your wife flowers, no, that's not AFC. It's all about the context.
VeryBadGirl
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Speaking of flowers, I just had some delivered to my office....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheManiac
Don Juan
what to do for Valentines...
Ok fellas, heres the deal:
I have a girlfriend who ive been seeing for a little while now and we dated for a bit too, this is our first Valentines together and shes never really had a big valentines day before.
thanks to her bi*ch of a roommate who told her that I had all this stuff planned (which i dont!), my girl will be very dissapointed tommorow (were doing Valentines tommorow instead of today)
if i dont have all types of small things planned to do with her throughout the day, I have reservations at a decently nice restraunt uptown and i have some flowers ordered, but i need advice on some actual stuff to do tommorow during the day before tommorow night, my brain's really fried right now and i cant think of anything, so ANY ideas would help or at least get me thinkin in the right direction.
Ok fellas, heres the deal:
I have a girlfriend who ive been seeing for a little while now and we dated for a bit too, this is our first Valentines together and shes never really had a big valentines day before.
thanks to her bi*ch of a roommate who told her that I had all this stuff planned (which i dont!), my girl will be very dissapointed tommorow (were doing Valentines tommorow instead of today)
if i dont have all types of small things planned to do with her throughout the day, I have reservations at a decently nice restraunt uptown and i have some flowers ordered, but i need advice on some actual stuff to do tommorow during the day before tommorow night, my brain's really fried right now and i cant think of anything, so ANY ideas would help or at least get me thinkin in the right direction.
TheManiac
Don Juan
come on guys, one post would help alot here, i dont have too much time i can wait
I was thinking about giving her a massage. im not sure if her roommate will be there or not
I was thinking about giving her a massage. im not sure if her roommate will be there or not
Cecilia
Don Juan
Massage would definitely be good. If you can cook, the majority of women loves it when a guy cooks for them. This should be a quite. relaxing time for both of you.
Seems like you're hooked
Seems like you're hooked
TheManiac
Don Juan
yeah, a bit, but more me being "hooked", i just really want this to be a good valentines day for her tommorow, none of her past bfs never put alot of thought into the stuff they did for her, and at least tommorow I want to be the stereotypical boyfriend she fantasizes about for Vday
Wow, i guess I am whipped
Wow, i guess I am whipped
Cecilia
Don Juan
I'm happy for you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.