"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
V-Day 'Friend' Date
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
valentines day is reserved for those you truly care about, not some FBs or "friends"
letmeshowyou
Don Juan
Do it
I had two chicks ask me to take her out that day. The first one I have actually gotten a little play from. The second one is pretty much just a friend (although she has been mighty frisky lately!).
I actually called girl #1 to ask if she still wanted to go out that day. She said she didn't remember us talking about it so she had made plans to babysit someones kid. She was pretty drunk both times she mentioned it so I can buy her story. She even tried to arrange for us to go out this coming weekend instead. Point is, I was willing to take this one out because I would have likely gotten some action in return.
The other one....well.....there's a possibily of getting some from her also, but I've known her for years and I wouldn't take a chance on spending more than a few bucks on her without any kind of a clear idea that I would be rewarded.
I know it sounds bad, but that's the way it is. If you aren't romantically involved with a chick why would you want to reward her on this mother-of-all chick holidays, without getting something in return?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
S.Y.M.
Save Your Money.
Investment versus return = Don't commit to buy anything that wont show a dividend. This girl wont show one and V-Day is an occasion just swimming in opportunities if you know which rocks to look under.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Don't go play 'pity friend' with any girl tonight. Call up your best wing man and sarge on the best night of the year to sarge. Wedding receptions aren't even as good as V-Day for this.
NorPacWolf
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If you're paying for dinner, definitely not. If they are truly "just friends", go out with them for a beer or two, and exploit them as pivots and social proof. Don't pay for the beer either lol.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
ding ding ding
we have a winner
i'm taking a 7.5 out for dinner, an 8.5 out for drinks, and if nothing happens with the drinks, i've got an HB9 who wants to hang out "just as friends and to be my designated driver," perfect pivot material!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
KarmaSutra
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THIS is now part of my fvcking vernacular!
Absolutely perfect senseai.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
genuis.
this is one of the more important things i've learned in the past year.