"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
V-Day 'Friend' Date
- Thread starter BradSmint
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
valentines day is reserved for those you truly care about, not some FBs or "friends"
letmeshowyou
Don Juan
Do it
I had two chicks ask me to take her out that day. The first one I have actually gotten a little play from. The second one is pretty much just a friend (although she has been mighty frisky lately!).
I actually called girl #1 to ask if she still wanted to go out that day. She said she didn't remember us talking about it so she had made plans to babysit someones kid. She was pretty drunk both times she mentioned it so I can buy her story. She even tried to arrange for us to go out this coming weekend instead. Point is, I was willing to take this one out because I would have likely gotten some action in return.
The other one....well.....there's a possibily of getting some from her also, but I've known her for years and I wouldn't take a chance on spending more than a few bucks on her without any kind of a clear idea that I would be rewarded.
I know it sounds bad, but that's the way it is. If you aren't romantically involved with a chick why would you want to reward her on this mother-of-all chick holidays, without getting something in return?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
S.Y.M.
Save Your Money.
Investment versus return = Don't commit to buy anything that wont show a dividend. This girl wont show one and V-Day is an occasion just swimming in opportunities if you know which rocks to look under.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Don't go play 'pity friend' with any girl tonight. Call up your best wing man and sarge on the best night of the year to sarge. Wedding receptions aren't even as good as V-Day for this.
NorPacWolf
Senior Don Juan
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If you're paying for dinner, definitely not. If they are truly "just friends", go out with them for a beer or two, and exploit them as pivots and social proof. Don't pay for the beer either lol.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
ding ding ding
we have a winner
i'm taking a 7.5 out for dinner, an 8.5 out for drinks, and if nothing happens with the drinks, i've got an HB9 who wants to hang out "just as friends and to be my designated driver," perfect pivot material!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
KarmaSutra
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THIS is now part of my fvcking vernacular!
Absolutely perfect senseai.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
genuis.
this is one of the more important things i've learned in the past year.