"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Using a vehicle to attract women?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I drive a 1983 ford truck that has more rust on it than paint knuckle.
Your car doesn't matter, your clothes don;'t matter, your ****adoodle doo don't matter. Are you confident? Are you you? If they don;t like it so be it. God dang it find a clue.
They only want to feel things, make them feel and it don't matter.
IT DOESNT MATTER. IF you are not butt ugly, then it doesn't matter. Be you, be funny, don't try to impress, don';t funking think, feel, use the force. But still be the best you you can be and always strive to be better. Women love it and if they don't funk em. BE you and you will get what you want, treat em like your buddy, but demonstrate your sexual power.
Just talk to them and engage them, everywhere all the time and it will all become second nature.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
That said, the key, like with most purchases is it worth it and can you afford it?. You will have to go some to get something impressive, if that means spending more than six months salary on the darn thing or going into debt you are a fool. If you have lots of money then why not.
The other thing is what offers you the best value for your material attraction efforts. Just think what clothes, hairstyles, holidays, activities you could get by spending just a fraction of that money.
Also if you've spent all your money on a car and you can hardly afford to put petrol in it then you'll look a right plonker.
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diablo
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In creating initial interest, all of these things certainly matter. While confidence is grand, it only can come into play after the first perception has been made. Let's take two extreme examples, a bum and a politician. The bum is dressed in rags, with a weather-beaten face and a smell that would make a dog sniff his own butt. The politician has a $4999 suit with the latest in lapel styles, and smells slightly of soap and an expensive, designer cologne. The bum has confidence, the politician doesn't. And the winner is????
Regardless of what anyone says, your vehicle is important, as are your clothes. They represent you, how successful (or unsuccessful) you are, and how well you take care of yourself. Don't take these things lightly, as they can be very, very important weaponry in any DJ's arsenal.
As for the people who are saying "it will attract the wrong kind of women, women who just want you for your money", that's completely correct! Bingo! Genius! However, my question is simple: "WHO CARES???" What's your goal here?! A wife?! Sure, if you want a long-term relationship and deep committment, maybe you're better off dressing plain and driving a beater. I'd prefer the "love 'em and leave 'em" approach...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DeathDealer
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Girl:
She *wants and likes* the flashy expensive sports car just like how she *wants and likes* a bad boy who is super good looking and body building cut with an excellent job.
You can only wish.
She'll settle down and still be happy with a car that is dependable/reliable (like a Toyota) and with a guy that is good enough for her.
Guy: Same thing.
Hey unistork and those of you contemplating this move, let me save you a bunch of time and a LOT of money by saying DON’T!!! DO NOT! It doesn’t work… AT ALL! I’m speaking from experience here:
Let me start off by saying that I’m a big time sportscar enthusiast, and have been since I was in seventh grade, so naturally once I got out of college and landed my first real job, it wasn’t too long before I snatched my savings and bought a wicked ride. My choice was a pre-owned Dodge Viper. I spent roughly $40k on a moderate mileage car that lived a pampered existence with it’s first owner and had a fresh paintjob on it… point is (back before the Gen 3 cars were out) no one could really tell that it wasn’t new (most assumed that it was), especially chicks who don’t know the finer details about cars in the first place… so, for all intensive purposes, I was this 22-year old guy driving around in a $70,000 car. Sound good? Read on…
Now, I NEVER had any delusions about it getting me girls… seriously, the thought never crossed my mind when I bought it… BUT if I had purchased such a pricey and flamboyant form of transportation with the sole purpose in mind to impress the opposite sex I would have been sorely disappointed!!! I’ve had the car for over five years now and I can’t think of more than a handful of occasions where a female has made a comment on my ride, and only ONE where a girl had approached me with obvious “intent”. I’ll tell you what I DO get, a lot of guys coming up to me in parking lots saying things like, “Man, you must get a LOT of p***y with that car!”. Nope. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Zero. I hang out (and park) in many bustling parts of the major US metropolis that I reside in… busy strip malls, coffee houses, shopping malls, the local University, so my visibility is pretty high. Lots of girls gallivanting around… and very little or no notice by the hotties whatsoever. Even when occasionally I take the car up to the weekly car meet, the (few) girls that sometimes peruse up there have yet to throw a glance or comment my way… even when it’s the coolest thing in the lot. Pre-pubescent boys and middle-aged men think it’s the coolest friggen thing in the world, though… lol! I’ve got a bunch of buddies with nice sportscars and motorcycles and they’ll tell you the same thing.
As for suits and flashy fashion… I can’t say I’d invest too much in the way of cash into those items either. I went through a phase where I was wearing suits and dressy shoes, and details like $300+ Oakleys (well, I still wear those for functional purposes) and really had no luck with that image either. I don’t know that girls are all that interested in money, but then again I have NO idea… I just know what didn’t work at attracting a bit of female attention. I mean if I knew what I was doing, would I be on this board? Of course not.
Anyone want to shed some more light on this situation?As for the sub-topic of clothes, it does make a difference. Think about it. When you go after a girl, how do you pick which one to go after? Because you looked at her, and found her attractive. And clothes is part of that. So maybe if you're smooth enough you can get them not to CARE about the clothes, but it really can only help you if their very first impression of you (just SEEING you) is favorable already. It can even make up for a slight lack of game if you're lookin' good.
Alexi
I always see girs turn and look at guys in nice cars.
If you can buy a nice car do it. It will help out a lot. Girls will think you are successfull. That is what they want.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ImSoHorny005
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Don't get me wrong, but I think YOU are the one who doesn't get it yet. There's no doubt clothes DO MATTER as well as your looks, but those things are just NOT ENOUGH.
Do you think any girl would be attracted to ****y and funny homeless? I don't think so.
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ShizamDaMan
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It really doesn't matter at all man. The girl needs to want you, not your wheels.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.