Black Widow Void
Master Don Juan
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Read any interesting news lately?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's the Religion of Political Correctness sown for decades. You're a heretic in this established religion which is illegal in America btw per the constitution.I backed the police in one of the shootings on a social media site. So someone I know screenshot it, published it on his page, and the R word spread like wild fire. Proof you don’t need evidence anymore to convict someone.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree. I think that this might be part of human nature?When you start looking for racism everywhere you go, you're going to find it. Even if it isn't there.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hmm, good point, good comparison. I'm sure it is part of human nature.I agree. I think that this might be part of human nature?
A good example is reading a lot of forum entries here. After one, two (or more) wrong-doing's from a woman, there's suddenly a bandwagon of "all women are b1tches."
I saw that interview, and true he did try to hang on to the idea of it being a noose. But from what I understand this morning he walked it back, and said that it wasn't what we were afraid it was. So I don't think he's still maintaining it's a noose. I saw a commentator on FS1 today, I thought what he said made sense. He was saying give the guy a chance to sleep on it, because he was probably afraid for his family and it probably took a little while to process that it wasn't real. I thought that sounded reasonable.With all the above being expressed, I still don't respect Bubba Wallace. After the FBI conclusion, he was on CNN still claiming that it was still a noose. It wasn't. It was a scaffold knot. He didn't mind stepping up to the plate when he thought he was a victim, but ducked his tail and ran when it came time to take ownership for an error.
Unfortunately, it sounds like the NASCAR president is still trying to push the idea that it was a real noose. It was really his mistake in the first place, and doesn't want to admit he was wrong. Seems more than a little pathetic, and worse, dangerous in these current times. The last thing we need is amping up the racial tension, although that's what we're seeing as people try to keep things stirred up for political gain.Thanks for providing a perspective that I'd yet to consider.
When I was growing up the FCC had something called the Fairness Doctrine, which required news broadcasts to be unbiased, and to present different sides of the issues. And while you could often detect a slight tilt in the news, it was basically fair and they did offer different viewpoints. There was only a limited number of channels back then though, and after cable and the internet arrived they did away with the Fairness Doctrine in 1987. Now basically every news network (and even the sports networks) have their own agenda which dictates which way they present and spin the news. Sometimes I miss the old days. Sonny.This is also a good example of the media stoking the fires on both sides. It's very easy to get angry at just a headline or photo. Watching or reading the news is seeing reality through a soda straw.
This was one of my main beefs with Reagan. I went to school for broadcasting and got my FCC license in 1988 (the year after Reagan did away with this). The books from which we studied, were a couple of years old and talked about the "Fairness Doctrine Act."When I was growing up the FCC had something called the Fairness Doctrine, which required news broadcasts to be unbiased,....
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Do people assume a conspiracy for everything? Why would the President of NASCAR risk their reputation to protect the sports lone black driver?Unfortunately, it sounds like the NASCAR president is still trying to push the idea that it was a real noose. It was really his mistake in the first place, and doesn't want to admit he was wrong. Seems more than a little pathetic, and worse, dangerous in these current times. The last thing we need is amping up the racial tension, although that's what we're seeing as people try to keep things stirred up for political gain.