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Master Don Juan
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Read any interesting news lately?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's the Religion of Political Correctness sown for decades. You're a heretic in this established religion which is illegal in America btw per the constitution.I backed the police in one of the shootings on a social media site. So someone I know screenshot it, published it on his page, and the R word spread like wild fire. Proof you don’t need evidence anymore to convict someone.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree. I think that this might be part of human nature?When you start looking for racism everywhere you go, you're going to find it. Even if it isn't there.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hmm, good point, good comparison. I'm sure it is part of human nature.I agree. I think that this might be part of human nature?
A good example is reading a lot of forum entries here. After one, two (or more) wrong-doing's from a woman, there's suddenly a bandwagon of "all women are b1tches."
I saw that interview, and true he did try to hang on to the idea of it being a noose. But from what I understand this morning he walked it back, and said that it wasn't what we were afraid it was. So I don't think he's still maintaining it's a noose. I saw a commentator on FS1 today, I thought what he said made sense. He was saying give the guy a chance to sleep on it, because he was probably afraid for his family and it probably took a little while to process that it wasn't real. I thought that sounded reasonable.With all the above being expressed, I still don't respect Bubba Wallace. After the FBI conclusion, he was on CNN still claiming that it was still a noose. It wasn't. It was a scaffold knot. He didn't mind stepping up to the plate when he thought he was a victim, but ducked his tail and ran when it came time to take ownership for an error.
Unfortunately, it sounds like the NASCAR president is still trying to push the idea that it was a real noose. It was really his mistake in the first place, and doesn't want to admit he was wrong. Seems more than a little pathetic, and worse, dangerous in these current times. The last thing we need is amping up the racial tension, although that's what we're seeing as people try to keep things stirred up for political gain.Thanks for providing a perspective that I'd yet to consider.
When I was growing up the FCC had something called the Fairness Doctrine, which required news broadcasts to be unbiased, and to present different sides of the issues. And while you could often detect a slight tilt in the news, it was basically fair and they did offer different viewpoints. There was only a limited number of channels back then though, and after cable and the internet arrived they did away with the Fairness Doctrine in 1987. Now basically every news network (and even the sports networks) have their own agenda which dictates which way they present and spin the news. Sometimes I miss the old days. Sonny.This is also a good example of the media stoking the fires on both sides. It's very easy to get angry at just a headline or photo. Watching or reading the news is seeing reality through a soda straw.
This was one of my main beefs with Reagan. I went to school for broadcasting and got my FCC license in 1988 (the year after Reagan did away with this). The books from which we studied, were a couple of years old and talked about the "Fairness Doctrine Act."When I was growing up the FCC had something called the Fairness Doctrine, which required news broadcasts to be unbiased,....
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do people assume a conspiracy for everything? Why would the President of NASCAR risk their reputation to protect the sports lone black driver?Unfortunately, it sounds like the NASCAR president is still trying to push the idea that it was a real noose. It was really his mistake in the first place, and doesn't want to admit he was wrong. Seems more than a little pathetic, and worse, dangerous in these current times. The last thing we need is amping up the racial tension, although that's what we're seeing as people try to keep things stirred up for political gain.