"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Using a girl's friend to extract information?

A

AverageHero

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 23, 2011
Messages
21
Reaction score
0
There is this girl I work with, that I like. She may be wrong for me, but she may be a good time in bed too. She is extremely flirty with everyone, but especially with me. We have numerous private jokes etc, and get along well.

She is a bit of an attention seeker, however I was looking to see what a female work colleague thought about the girl in question, and to try and extract her point of view, or any info on the target girl.

Any advice to give me on this?

Thanks for all replies
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

B

blueline

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 16, 2009
Messages
447
Reaction score
8
just ask her out for coffee. if she comes out, then you don't need to creep around behind her back like that.
 
T

Tyson420

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 3, 2009
Messages
328
Reaction score
7
Location
BC Vancouver
No. Don't do that. That's AFC.

Like whats the problem? YOU get to know HER, the thing about dating is that you have to invest time and monetary resources no matter what, don't grill your friend for answers.

Like are you limited on time? Clearly not since you're here.
 
M

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,411
Reaction score
5,176
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
Don't go there.

You will be adding fuel to the "workplace gossip" fire.

It WILL get back to this girl that you asked about her, and it will creep her out. I don't care how much you trust this female friend. You being interested in and/or curious about another female at work is too juicy a topic for any female to keep to herself. Remember the workplace is 8th grade on steroids. Never reveal who your crush is.

Like the others said, get to know this girl yourself. If you decide to invite her out, tell no one.
 
W

Warrior74

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2008
Messages
5,106
Reaction score
230
You do know that women hate women and women love to gossip. You do understand you are feeding the beast by asking about her. You do know she will resent your obvious stupidity here. Even if she doesn't. You've tipped your hand and any sense of mystery or alphaness is out the door.

The only time I've asked a girl about another girl is if it was an ex FB I was still friends with who knew the chic. I have only 1 former FB like that who is in my corner. I'd never ask another woman unless I really wasn't interested and just starting sh1t for fun.

Don't do it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Konada

Konada

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 28, 2011
Messages
1,228
Reaction score
648
Don't do it, word eventually gets around once a woman gets hold of it. I have a rule and which is why I don't divulge secrets to women - Women's lips are bigger than their lips.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top