"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Using a girl's friend to extract information?

AverageHero

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There is this girl I work with, that I like. She may be wrong for me, but she may be a good time in bed too. She is extremely flirty with everyone, but especially with me. We have numerous private jokes etc, and get along well.

She is a bit of an attention seeker, however I was looking to see what a female work colleague thought about the girl in question, and to try and extract her point of view, or any info on the target girl.

Any advice to give me on this?

Thanks for all replies
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blueline

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just ask her out for coffee. if she comes out, then you don't need to creep around behind her back like that.
 

Tyson420

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No. Don't do that. That's AFC.

Like whats the problem? YOU get to know HER, the thing about dating is that you have to invest time and monetary resources no matter what, don't grill your friend for answers.

Like are you limited on time? Clearly not since you're here.
 

Mike32ct

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Don't go there.

You will be adding fuel to the "workplace gossip" fire.

It WILL get back to this girl that you asked about her, and it will creep her out. I don't care how much you trust this female friend. You being interested in and/or curious about another female at work is too juicy a topic for any female to keep to herself. Remember the workplace is 8th grade on steroids. Never reveal who your crush is.

Like the others said, get to know this girl yourself. If you decide to invite her out, tell no one.
 

Warrior74

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You do know that women hate women and women love to gossip. You do understand you are feeding the beast by asking about her. You do know she will resent your obvious stupidity here. Even if she doesn't. You've tipped your hand and any sense of mystery or alphaness is out the door.

The only time I've asked a girl about another girl is if it was an ex FB I was still friends with who knew the chic. I have only 1 former FB like that who is in my corner. I'd never ask another woman unless I really wasn't interested and just starting sh1t for fun.

Don't do it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Konada

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Don't do it, word eventually gets around once a woman gets hold of it. I have a rule and which is why I don't divulge secrets to women - Women's lips are bigger than their lips.
 
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