"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
It ain't gonna happen. As Gio said in your other post about avatars, there's too many dipsh!ts out there that would use it for something retarded and it would hinder loading times/bandwith.
There is still hope, however, and I think I have a solution for you: Take one of those little yellow sticky notes and draw a picture of a kitty cat or a smiling sun with sunglasses and, whenever you scroll by one of your posts, stick it on your monitor. I mean, I know you don't want avatars so you can try to impress people with a random image you found on google, so what's the difference?
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Also, for the love of English, stop using a third person narrative. Narcissism isn't a good thing.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
diplomatic_lie
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I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
Anyhow, I do still agree that avatars shouldn't be allowed on these boards. It's just not in the style of this board. Around here you need to prove yourself by the posts you make, not by giving each of your posts a better appearance.
By the way, this post is coming from someone who has spent over 30 hours in the last 2 years just on making avatars, so I suppose you could call me an avatar creating junky
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