"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
It ain't gonna happen. As Gio said in your other post about avatars, there's too many dipsh!ts out there that would use it for something retarded and it would hinder loading times/bandwith.
There is still hope, however, and I think I have a solution for you: Take one of those little yellow sticky notes and draw a picture of a kitty cat or a smiling sun with sunglasses and, whenever you scroll by one of your posts, stick it on your monitor. I mean, I know you don't want avatars so you can try to impress people with a random image you found on google, so what's the difference?
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Also, for the love of English, stop using a third person narrative. Narcissism isn't a good thing.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
diplomatic_lie
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I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
Anyhow, I do still agree that avatars shouldn't be allowed on these boards. It's just not in the style of this board. Around here you need to prove yourself by the posts you make, not by giving each of your posts a better appearance.
By the way, this post is coming from someone who has spent over 30 hours in the last 2 years just on making avatars, so I suppose you could call me an avatar creating junky
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