"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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URGENT: to cancel or not to cancel (afc alert)

j8snx1

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The answer to this question may or may not seem blatantly obvious, but I would really appreciate it if you guys gave me feedbacks ASAP. I just want that reassurance that I'm not making a big idiot out of myself.

So me and my girl are doing well these days; we recently had some pretty intimate moments and she tells me she cant wait to see me, and other IOI's.
However, we talked today and she wanted to see me again on Saturday, which is today since it's 1:08 AM right now! However, I wanted to get some homework done because I have 4 take home tests and 3 essays to complete, and that's only one class. I have plenty more, but I would really like to be with her.

Regardless of her or my needs, I really want to put my priorities first, and my first priority is to get the homework done so I dont stress over the weekend. Do you guys think I'm making the right choice? Would this put me in bad terms with her, since she really wants to see me?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Taviii

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**** that *****, dont sacrifice yourself for some girl. She'll just have to wait for you.
 

j8snx1

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you can call me a b!tch for all I care, but don't talk smack about my lady fool.
immature pr!ck.:crackup:

anyway, anyone else think that got my points up as a challenge?
 

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Anyone else think that got my points up as a challenge?

I can't believe it. I got to do homework, I'm a challenge now? That's some pretty high self-value for such a medicore thing.?!
 

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If you have to cancel, aleast lie and say you are doing something cooler then homework.....family get together....idk
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alfie Crew said:
If you have to cancel, aleast lie and say you are doing something cooler then homework.....family get together....idk
No.

"Sorry you couldn't see me today, I had a lot of work that I needed to finish."

End of story.
 

j8snx1

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i definitely agree with thenewguy.

i know it's good to use those "im doing something MORE interesting" lines, but every time? using it every damn time will eventually leave me no choice but to say **** like "oh im going to the moon today. I cant hang out with you."

eff that. i had work to do and i did 'em. no biggie :D
 

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Whats going to help you more in the long run? Doing the 4 take home tests and 3 essays or hanging out with your girl for a saturday? Thats what I thought.

Girls are usually the spice to life. You probably should not add the spice before the meal is cooked. Its a bit late now but, do your hw and if you have some time left then go see her for a while.
 

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Your philosophy IS correct 6 foot azn, but I can only agree to a certain degree. The 4 tests and 3 essays will help me earn the grade I need to graduate, and today isn't the only day left where I can go out with my girl! It's only one saturday, and saturdays aren't going anywhere. I'm making it up to her soon :)
 

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You have to "make it up to her", not seeing her one day because you got homework? Going back to your second point, I would guess that it does give you a few challenge points. At the moment it sounds like you pose **** all of a challenge for her. Try saying you're busy for next week too. I did some of that on a girl I AFCed before I saw the site, she was begging me to forgive her, thought she had done something to upset me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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