Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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URGENT: to cancel or not to cancel (afc alert)

j8snx1

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The answer to this question may or may not seem blatantly obvious, but I would really appreciate it if you guys gave me feedbacks ASAP. I just want that reassurance that I'm not making a big idiot out of myself.

So me and my girl are doing well these days; we recently had some pretty intimate moments and she tells me she cant wait to see me, and other IOI's.
However, we talked today and she wanted to see me again on Saturday, which is today since it's 1:08 AM right now! However, I wanted to get some homework done because I have 4 take home tests and 3 essays to complete, and that's only one class. I have plenty more, but I would really like to be with her.

Regardless of her or my needs, I really want to put my priorities first, and my first priority is to get the homework done so I dont stress over the weekend. Do you guys think I'm making the right choice? Would this put me in bad terms with her, since she really wants to see me?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Taviii

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**** that *****, dont sacrifice yourself for some girl. She'll just have to wait for you.
 

j8snx1

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you can call me a b!tch for all I care, but don't talk smack about my lady fool.
immature pr!ck.:crackup:

anyway, anyone else think that got my points up as a challenge?
 

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Anyone else think that got my points up as a challenge?

I can't believe it. I got to do homework, I'm a challenge now? That's some pretty high self-value for such a medicore thing.?!
 

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If you have to cancel, aleast lie and say you are doing something cooler then homework.....family get together....idk
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheNewGuy

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Alfie Crew said:
If you have to cancel, aleast lie and say you are doing something cooler then homework.....family get together....idk
No.

"Sorry you couldn't see me today, I had a lot of work that I needed to finish."

End of story.
 

j8snx1

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i definitely agree with thenewguy.

i know it's good to use those "im doing something MORE interesting" lines, but every time? using it every damn time will eventually leave me no choice but to say **** like "oh im going to the moon today. I cant hang out with you."

eff that. i had work to do and i did 'em. no biggie :D
 

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Whats going to help you more in the long run? Doing the 4 take home tests and 3 essays or hanging out with your girl for a saturday? Thats what I thought.

Girls are usually the spice to life. You probably should not add the spice before the meal is cooked. Its a bit late now but, do your hw and if you have some time left then go see her for a while.
 

j8snx1

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Your philosophy IS correct 6 foot azn, but I can only agree to a certain degree. The 4 tests and 3 essays will help me earn the grade I need to graduate, and today isn't the only day left where I can go out with my girl! It's only one saturday, and saturdays aren't going anywhere. I'm making it up to her soon :)
 

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You have to "make it up to her", not seeing her one day because you got homework? Going back to your second point, I would guess that it does give you a few challenge points. At the moment it sounds like you pose **** all of a challenge for her. Try saying you're busy for next week too. I did some of that on a girl I AFCed before I saw the site, she was begging me to forgive her, thought she had done something to upset me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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