"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tennisbuck12

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So some chick that broke up with me like a month ago, just wished me happy bday today. Another year older. I haven't spoken or said anything to her since then. No Contact challenge!

Should I respond with anything, if so what?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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tennisbuck12

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I did like her, but have been back on the scene for 2 weeks and I have 3-4 women on me now. I love that feeling and no pressure.

She will NEVER get ego validation from me again, you guys warned me on this and were right. i sh!t the bed on that one. Lesson learned.
 

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So what would you guys say to this:

So how would you respond to her bday wish? She said happy bday old man;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dude99

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So some chick that broke up with me like a month ago, just wished me happy bday today. Another year older. I haven't spoken or said anything to her since then. No Contact challenge!

Should I respond with anything, if so what?
No. There is no need to respond to history.
 

RangerMIke

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What do you normally do when someone wishes you a happy birthday? Whatever that is do that, because it is who you are. If you intentionally don't respond to her because she broke up with you, then you are letting her dictate your behavior. If you don;t care that she is gone, then you are not going to act different. Bible_Belt is right
 

badboyjmm

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Don't reply if you know you are vulnerable to reply once she start asking questions about you.

The fact that she's wishing you a happy birthday is in my opinion to get news from you.
 

dude99

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I wouldn't reply. But if you do, do as amoka said a simple thank you then go ghost. She is trying to see id she can suck you in and feed her ego.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yewki

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Respond to say "thank you" and nothing more.
This is the best response, extends common courtesy and shows you're not bitter. No need to create unnecessary friction. The exception is if she's actually a bad person and you truly want nothing to do with her, in which case she should have already been blocked.
 
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