"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ur favorite way to start a conversation
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
the times i just walk up and talk to a girl in another scenario eg when she is sitting talking to a freind i just say hey * wait for response* whats up, and i take it from their.
aproching is great because when ever i do it even if its a group of girls i have their undivded attention for quite a while then the ones im not talking to may tend to stop listining, but i dont know if its just me but whne i talk to a girl she always gives me her attention.
PRMoon
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Tha Realnezz
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It's not that hard you need practice.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
buy her a drink? ... *sigh* .. shame.
uturn: Walk up to a girl that you see, say 'hey I'm (your-name), was just talking with my friends and i couldnt resist but come speak to you, goid knows why, but here i am... so whats your name" <--- The conversation normally flows from that point onwards... no big deal
Laterz...
If u do that to some random chcik that u have never met/spoket to before, she will think that u are some sort of freak... thats not a good idea to "approach" a woman that u have nevver seen or spoken to before... thats what u say after u have introdused yourself etc.
Laterz...
There no techniques really or any canned pickup lines. just walk over say something. You're done. i have learned it from the Dating Teacher Marius Panzarella he is good at it.
true, but it actually happend to me. it was raining outside and i asked her if she was in line for coffee at the cafe and she said yes. and i proceeded from there. but i guess you can look at other angles. thx for ur input! but she did laugh thru-out the small convo. which i found really weird hmm.. hahaha
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
yes... asking her " are u in line for coffe" and asking her " so hows your day" are 2 different questions.. 1 is personall, 1 isnt... but i guess all girls are different... but in general, asking a girl that u dont know "how has ur day been" is kinda wierd
Laterz...
but all girls are different in their own special little way.RedKnight04
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Usually for the really HB's I accuse them of checking me out, and I ask them if they can be a little more discreet about it and stare them directly in the eye. If you do that right you'll usually get a laugh.
Sometimes for HB7's I'll give them a compliment. Face it they know they ain't fine and usually don't get MANY compliments so it tends to work for me.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Haha, reminds me of my last bar approach. The girl asked me to buy her a drink so I said to bartender to give her a glass of water.Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
buy her a drink? ... *sigh* .. shame.
uturn: Walk up to a girl that you see, say 'hey I'm (your-name), was just talking with my friends and i couldnt resist but come speak to you, goid knows why, but here i am... so whats your name" <--- The conversation normally flows from that point onwards... no big deal
Laterz...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
Yo
I've just been reading Avator's approach journal, and i'd have to say i'm a big fan of his style of approach
For example: 'hi there, i just saw you over here and thought i'd like to meet you'
For me, this is a cracking opener - its confident and direct and gets over that awkward hurdle where you can't think of anything to say
I've only just been reading his thread but thats an opener i'm definately gonna try out myself (and not on a fat bird before anyone suggests it!!)
Royal Elite
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The best way is to say whatever is on your mind as a MAN. Stop over analayzing this. Its a small, frial, woman. Women are so stuck in their heads worrying about what you will think of her shoes, or her breast. That is what they do, not a Man. If she likes you, you can talk about paint drying and she will hang on your every word, pretending to be interested.
cactus3178
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PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Again buy her a drink!!!
where else are you going to meet these girls? The Library? oh yeah there are winners there.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.