"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ur favorite way to start a conversation
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
the times i just walk up and talk to a girl in another scenario eg when she is sitting talking to a freind i just say hey * wait for response* whats up, and i take it from their.
aproching is great because when ever i do it even if its a group of girls i have their undivded attention for quite a while then the ones im not talking to may tend to stop listining, but i dont know if its just me but whne i talk to a girl she always gives me her attention.
PRMoon
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Tha Realnezz
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It's not that hard you need practice.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
buy her a drink? ... *sigh* .. shame.
uturn: Walk up to a girl that you see, say 'hey I'm (your-name), was just talking with my friends and i couldnt resist but come speak to you, goid knows why, but here i am... so whats your name" <--- The conversation normally flows from that point onwards... no big deal
Laterz...
If u do that to some random chcik that u have never met/spoket to before, she will think that u are some sort of freak... thats not a good idea to "approach" a woman that u have nevver seen or spoken to before... thats what u say after u have introdused yourself etc.
Laterz...
There no techniques really or any canned pickup lines. just walk over say something. You're done. i have learned it from the Dating Teacher Marius Panzarella he is good at it.
true, but it actually happend to me. it was raining outside and i asked her if she was in line for coffee at the cafe and she said yes. and i proceeded from there. but i guess you can look at other angles. thx for ur input! but she did laugh thru-out the small convo. which i found really weird hmm.. hahaha
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yes... asking her " are u in line for coffe" and asking her " so hows your day" are 2 different questions.. 1 is personall, 1 isnt... but i guess all girls are different... but in general, asking a girl that u dont know "how has ur day been" is kinda wierd
Laterz...
but all girls are different in their own special little way.RedKnight04
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Usually for the really HB's I accuse them of checking me out, and I ask them if they can be a little more discreet about it and stare them directly in the eye. If you do that right you'll usually get a laugh.
Sometimes for HB7's I'll give them a compliment. Face it they know they ain't fine and usually don't get MANY compliments so it tends to work for me.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Haha, reminds me of my last bar approach. The girl asked me to buy her a drink so I said to bartender to give her a glass of water.Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
buy her a drink? ... *sigh* .. shame.
uturn: Walk up to a girl that you see, say 'hey I'm (your-name), was just talking with my friends and i couldnt resist but come speak to you, goid knows why, but here i am... so whats your name" <--- The conversation normally flows from that point onwards... no big deal
Laterz...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
Yo
I've just been reading Avator's approach journal, and i'd have to say i'm a big fan of his style of approach
For example: 'hi there, i just saw you over here and thought i'd like to meet you'
For me, this is a cracking opener - its confident and direct and gets over that awkward hurdle where you can't think of anything to say
I've only just been reading his thread but thats an opener i'm definately gonna try out myself (and not on a fat bird before anyone suggests it!!)
Royal Elite
Banned
The best way is to say whatever is on your mind as a MAN. Stop over analayzing this. Its a small, frial, woman. Women are so stuck in their heads worrying about what you will think of her shoes, or her breast. That is what they do, not a Man. If she likes you, you can talk about paint drying and she will hang on your every word, pretending to be interested.
cactus3178
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PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Again buy her a drink!!!
where else are you going to meet these girls? The Library? oh yeah there are winners there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.