"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Uptight girls

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How do you handle girls who have their defenses up and don't engage in word play. For instance girls who aren't receptive to ****y n funny and take almost everything way too literally.

For example:
Nice you seem to make a lot of money, that's great. One step closer to fulfilling my dream of being a stay at home dad one day ;)
Her - um who said you'd even father my kids? And we're not dating.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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uptight girls are to be treated like a new baseball glove.. oiled down and broken in
 

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Haha. Can you explain that please? Continue busting?
 

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a girl who doesnt think you're good looking enough for her would reply the way that one in your example did

what you said was actually pretty funny, and an interested girl would have played along
 

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Pook said once, (am I a bible scolhar or what?) women who bark at a gentleman will like the boot of an *******.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Real said:
a girl who doesnt think you're good looking enough for her would reply the way that one in your example did

what you said was actually pretty funny, and an interested girl would have played along
Exactly. Can't win em all. I think I'm a nice looking guy and several times I've received a similar response to a very decent C&F. Can you say..... Next?

I don't give a s*** what the reality is; I'm convinced every single time that happens it was her loss.
 

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So its solely a looks issue? I'm not saying I'm too attractive to be in disbelief but, there must OTHER underlying issues no? Sure some might be the looks aspect but what else could cause that type of behavior?
 

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cNfny said:
So its solely a looks issue? I'm not saying I'm too attractive to be in disbelief but, there must OTHER underlying issues no? Sure some might be the looks aspect but what else could cause that type of behavior?
Attraction, from a woman's perspective, is far more complicated than just looks. I've been shot down by women I felt we're clearly not in my league from a looks standpoint or even an overall, total package standpoint, but they do all have their own unique preferences. There are probably some women that don't even dig Brad Pitt, or George Clooney, etc and that's just the way it goes.

It sucks you can't have them all, but come join the club we all belong to.
 

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azanon said:
Attraction, from a woman's perspective, is far more complicated ...... Brad Pitt, or George Clooney

I've actually known quite a few that find Brad Pitt if not unattractive at least less that stellar. I think it's because he (particularly when younger) wasn't super masculine looking. On the other hand I have to be honest and tell ya that I've never met a single woman that wasn't nuts for Clooney.

Status + looks + money.
 

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cNfny said:
How do you handle girls who have their defenses up and don't engage in word play. For instance girls who aren't receptive to ****y n funny and take almost everything way too literally.

For example:
Nice you seem to make a lot of money, that's great. One step closer to fulfilling my dream of being a stay at home dad one day ;)
Her - um who said you'd even father my kids? And we're not dating.
This looks like it could've been a sh1t test.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's either no sign of interest or no sense of humor. :whistle:
 
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