"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Update on girl from gym

tightsocks

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This chick ignored you and you still talk to her? You still engage her with casual conversation? You still show you're open to setting up another "date"? How could you be more available? This girl sees you as nothing. I would ignore her the minute she flaked on the date regardless of if she came up to me. You should have asked her to rack your weights and walked away or get you a towel.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This chick ignored you and you still talk to her? You still engage her with casual conversation? You still show you're open to setting up another "date"? How could you be more available? This girl sees you as nothing. I would ignore her the minute she flaked on the date regardless of if she came up to me. You should have asked her to rack your weights and walked away or get you a towel.
I never agreed to or said I was open to another date with her, despite the fact that she was asking me what I was up to later.

I have no intention of asking her out but if I'm also not going to come across as bitter or angry, as that just makes me look bad for no reason, which I had discussed earlier on this thread. However, I know for sure she is weird and went out of her way to **** with me for no reason other than attention whoring but that doesn't mean I need to stoop down to her level.
 

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I never agreed to or said I was open to another date with her, despite the fact that she was asking me what I was up to later.

I have no intention of asking her out but if I'm also not going to come across as bitter or angry, as that just makes me look bad for no reason, which I had discussed earlier on this thread. However, I know for sure she is weird and went out of her way to **** with me for no reason other than attention whoring but that doesn't mean I need to stoop down to her level.
You're not coming across as bitter or angry by ignoring a women who flaked on you. You're coming across as high value. Someone who doesn't have time for games.
 

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The girl is irrelevant. Op doesn't need to do anything but come up with a challenging work out to reach his next physical peak. Why are people still talking about the girl? She's background noise. You don't run away from background noise. It's part of the environment.
LOL I'm already in really good shape, but the routine now is based on developing strength and power, where as from December through March it was more focused on building up endurance whilst maintaining strength.
 
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