"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Unusually high flake rate after good 1st date?

Knight of Roses

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Hmm, well, I got burned out from running too many plates, so I decided to take a nice long vacation from the chase for 1-2 months. Did some travelling, new job, etc.. Now, Im transitioning back into the game.

Interesting thing I've noticed, happened about 3x now in a row with different women. First date goes well, kiss close, and make plans to see each other after a few days. When I text to confirm the day off or the day before, no response, complete flake.

What gives? Am I calibrating slightly wrong here? I didnt run into this problem when I had 4+ plates with several more on back up rotation. Now, when Im only running about 2-3 plates, Im getting an unusually higher inconsistent success rate.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wifehunter

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If you're having to confirm dates, you are automatically assuming the possibility of flakiness. Afraid of being stood up? Maybe not, but ladies may think you are.

How about, showing up without confirmation, and having a backup plan for when she flakes.
 

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Flake=Low interest

Your behavior is not attracting them.
 

marmel75

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Hmm, well, I got burned out from running too many plates, so I decided to take a nice long vacation from the chase for 1-2 months. Did some travelling, new job, etc.. Now, Im transitioning back into the game.

Interesting thing I've noticed, happened about 3x now in a row with different women. First date goes well, kiss close, and make plans to see each other after a few days. When I text to confirm the day off or the day before, no response, complete flake.

What gives? Am I calibrating slightly wrong here? I didnt run into this problem when I had 4+ plates with several more on back up rotation. Now, when Im only running about 2-3 plates, Im getting an unusually higher inconsistent success rate.

Dont make plans while on the first date for next date...makes you look desperate. Kissing a woman at the end of the date is the bare minimum. That honestly doesnt mean anything. At least it means far less than you think.
 

Knight of Roses

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Dont make plans while on the first date for next date...makes you look desperate. Kissing a woman at the end of the date is the bare minimum. That honestly doesnt mean anything. At least it means far less than you think.
Bare minimum for the girl or for us? I understand it's the bare minimum for us, though can you elaborate on what you mean in case you're talking from their perspective?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DEEZEDBRAH

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What gives? Am I calibrating slightly wrong here? I didnt run into this problem when I had 4+ plates with several more on back up rotation. Now, when Im only running about 2-3 plates, Im getting an unusually higher inconsistent success rate.
Time apart salted game. Even with absenteeism, blanc three approaches minimum is key especially in a cuckfest society. As for flakes, its game 101; women are predictable. Ghosting due to 'bigger better prize.' Women fail to realise they are on borrowed time. That hour glass is flipped for us all but, SMV runs much faster for women and its amplified by poor lifestyle choices.

Men peak late. Women peak late. Women have a short shelf life. It's then exacerbated by binge drinking, drugs, sloot gonna sloot, student loans in women's studies and basket weaving degree, hand bags, and debt. Western women are some of the most unfit and unworthy of marriage and monogamy in the world. Dare I say, our solar system. Still, cucks are playing house.

Spin plates. Have options. Adopt 'reward favors the brave.' frame is key. A mindset I adopt after every encounter is, I don't date, and I **** on first dates. I don't sleep in bed with women. I am out after I nut or I kick her out. I am vague. I am covert. I am bold and blunt when needs be. I never communicate. I am uncompromising.

Lastly, assume that you will not ever see her again no matter what and act accordingly.
 

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Now, when Im only running about 2-3 plates, Im getting an unusually higher inconsistent success rate.
Plates r those women that you're having sexual relationship that's non exclusive.

A man who has plates has higher then average charms/traits; charismatic, a leader, highly confident, resourceful, ozzing sexy masculine traits and generally a great fun to hang around.

Which women doesn't want that ?

Ur problem seems really strange. Perhaps it's the weather.
 

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Hmm, well, I got burned out from running too many plates, so I decided to take a nice long vacation from the chase for 1-2 months. Did some travelling, new job, etc.. Now, Im transitioning back into the game.

Interesting thing I've noticed, happened about 3x now in a row with different women. First date goes well, kiss close, and make plans to see each other after a few days. When I text to confirm the day off or the day before, no response, complete flake.

What gives? Am I calibrating slightly wrong here? I didnt run into this problem when I had 4+ plates with several more on back up rotation. Now, when Im only running about 2-3 plates, Im getting an unusually higher inconsistent success rate.
i had it too

1. they learned to fake interest to spend good time on first dates instead of wasting it being dissapointed

2. therefore they can have a nice date with anyone maybe except some total disgusting men.

3. therefore theres a lot of men like you who think shes into them
 

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Where are you meeting these women and what are you doing differently compared to when you were dating prior to your break?

Those are the questions you should ask yourself if you actually think this is an issue. I think it's possible one could be causing this but maybe it's just "not meeting the right women".
 
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