You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The same reason you pay for sports stadiums if you aren't a sports fan or pay for schools and parks and playgrounds if you don't go to them or don't have kids. Because it isn't always about YOU.TBH i dont wanna offend anyones religious FEELINGS but its not fair that i pay for your religion.
I personally dont believe in God, why do I have to pay for churches? why... its completely unfair.
I think the big difference, at least in the USA, is that sports teams pay tax. Churches do not. Also, churches, as a point of religious freedom, can bar participation based on belief... in addition, churches can and do discriminate based on belief, they are even free with having to comply with ADA. Stadiums, parks, public schools, playgrounds, etc.... not only have to be open to all, but they also have to comply with accessibility standards published by the ADA.The same reason you pay for sports stadiums if you aren't a sports fan or pay for schools and parks and playgrounds if you don't go to them or don't have kids. Because it isn't always about YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How am I gonna do that? I’m forced to pay taxes whether I want to or not. They take that tax money and give it to her in the form of WIC, free daycare, Medicaid, food stamps, free community college, etc. I’m not talking about single mothers with MY kid, I’m talking about all single mothers out there that we are paying for.Who says you have too. You can make her pay for her own shyt.
Just saying this implies you dont run your own dam house.
yeah. system is designed to make beta males pay for women who chased chad's ****. this is all new world order. women getting pregnant with chad and giving birth to superior genetically kids while tax paid by beta males is increasing and directed at these single mumsHow am I gonna do that? I’m forced to pay taxes whether I want to or not. They take that tax money and give it to her in the form of WIC, free daycare, Medicaid, food stamps, free community college, etc. I’m not talking about single mothers with MY kid, I’m talking about all single mothers out there that we are paying for.
Oh I know what you meant. My point was you’re still paying for single moms that you aren’t dating or don’t even know. We all are. I don’t have any kids, I don’t mind paying for a condom.lolIm talking about dating or being invloved with a single mom in your home where you have the control. If you are talking about fcking the wrong girl having a kid and paying support. Well that's your problem and the state you live in.
You shouldn't have to. Birth control ought to be free for everyone ( a policy the churches would oppose). One unwanted kid probably costs society more than a mountain of condoms.I don’t mind paying for a condom.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You don't pay for churches.I personally dont believe in God, why do I have to pay for churches?
That is a legitimate argument.I do know that I pay high taxes for public schools and state colleges, where I disagree with much of what is taught in liberal arts schools and colleges..And I don't even have a kid going to any of these..