"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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is it wrong to say to a girl that you couldnt get ur mind off her the whole day. (a girl that u want to let know that u like her)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That might show that you are desperate. And remember what comes easy goes easy. So don't show too much interest at once. Read the bible.:D
 

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If you're going for the creepy-stalker approach, that is an excellent thing to say.
 

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Somebody shoot me.
 

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If a girl couldn't get her mind off me all day, I'd wonder if she had anything better to do but mope around daydreaming. That might be cute to some AFC's out there, but in the reverse situation, girls do not want to think that the guys have no lives outside of them. By saying that you couldn't get your mind off her all day shows that you had nothing better to think about besides her and makes you seem desperate. Cut the mushy crap since you probably weren't doing it anyways.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If that is a serious question, my reply would be read or re-read the DJ Bible.

That is one of the most AFC questions I've heard in a while.
 

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Dude, that seriously will get you nowhere. If you were honestly thinking about her all day, I'd keep it to myself. Read over the Bible.

Girls give off this impression that they want a guy that thinks about them all the time, that's sweet, and caring but I think that's bull****. They want a guy with a life. One with ambitions and that makes their life interesting. Telling a girl that will only lower her IL of you. On a side note, how interested is this girl in you anyways?
 
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Oneitis. Oneitis. Oneitis. You need to get rid of your oneitis and start thinking of other things, at least other girls.
 

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**** her im done with her shes not worth all the trouble..she doesnt talk on the phone - one word answers.. **** this **** ill get a new ****
 

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
is it wrong to say to a girl that you couldnt get ur mind off her the whole day. (a girl that u want to let know that u like her)

Um.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
is it wrong to say to a girl that you couldnt get ur mind off her the whole day. (a girl that u want to let know that u like her)
yes, if thats why u did it, no if your teasing her, eg, she asks what you are up to, thinking of you (it depends on the context and is a bad example), but if you do it teasingly it comes off well
 
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