Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I am a man in my late 40’s although I look like I am in my mid 30’s. Went out finally and met a couple of really interesting, attractive younger women (32 and 31).

31 year old - bartender, seemed to really hit things off. we exchanged numbers and were chatting basically daily. We tried to meet after work but as a bartender her hours were pretty crazy. Also had a day job. All good though until I realized she would only respond to my text, never started any. It started to feel more like an interview and not ‘getting to know each other.’ So being the engineer that I am, I conducted an experiment. We were in the middle of a Q and A and I decided just to stop texting. I wanted to know if she would check to see if everything was ok or something. I never got a response back. Interestingly however, I noticed she was trolling me on my LinkedIn page. Is this normal behavior?

32 year old - saw her across the bar and noticed her looking at me. Got her a drink and salute! We eventually connect and she tells me she is on a date and still gives me her number. This was a tricky time, it was the week before xmas. She wanted to meet for dinner that week but I was booked. I sent her a happy holidays text, never got a reply back.

So, its not like I give two s#its, I just want to understand how this new game works. To me, if I am speaking with someone and for some reason they stop, I will at least ask, hey all good or something like that. If they do not reply to that, then I delete the number. To me that makes sense.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is completely normal in my experience. Texting is already lame to start with, and you make it a lot more so when you say something as lame as happy holidays. Idle chitchat never got a woman wet, and women have an overriding need to feel something.

Texting is only useful for setting up dates, otherwise you're just an orbiter.
 

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Bro women today are flooded with perceived options. They live in extreme abundance of men. Imagine if you were on a date, but you also had about 20 chicks in your inbox begging to take you out. Then another girl comes up to you on that date and offers you another date proposal.

We cant even begin to understand how much choice these chicks have. Its paralyzing and makes them nuerotic and super picky. When you add feminism and extreme promiscuity you have a recipe for disaster. They will treat you with indifference unless you become a constant part of her social circle or you are very high SMV.

This is normal. Welcome to dating in 2020 my brotha.
 

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I am a man in my late 40’s although I look like I am in my mid 30’s. Went out finally and met a couple of really interesting, attractive younger women (32 and 31).

31 year old - bartender, seemed to really hit things off. we exchanged numbers and were chatting basically daily. We tried to meet after work but as a bartender her hours were pretty crazy. Also had a day job. All good though until I realized she would only respond to my text, never started any. It started to feel more like an interview and not ‘getting to know each other.’ So being the engineer that I am, I conducted an experiment. We were in the middle of a Q and A and I decided just to stop texting. I wanted to know if she would check to see if everything was ok or something. I never got a response back. Interestingly however, I noticed she was trolling me on my LinkedIn page. Is this normal behavior?

32 year old - saw her across the bar and noticed her looking at me. Got her a drink and salute! We eventually connect and she tells me she is on a date and still gives me her number. This was a tricky time, it was the week before xmas. She wanted to meet for dinner that week but I was booked. I sent her a happy holidays text, never got a reply back.

So, its not like I give two s#its, I just want to understand how this new game works. To me, if I am speaking with someone and for some reason they stop, I will at least ask, hey all good or something like that. If they do not reply to that, then I delete the number. To me that makes sense.

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Dont tell em your an engineer. Unless your a holywood celebrity they going to rank you under ALL other professions.
 

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Dont tell em your an engineer. Unless your a holywood celebrity they going to rank you under ALL other professions.
Women had a way they did their system to balance things. Shell cheat on her $100k engineer or IT guy with a physical $40k warehouse guy. Theyll do the same with execs. Its safest to have a bodygame that bypass all professions. But still IT or engineer will gain you a demerit because theres a war on intellectuals in this country. Women dont like them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women had a way they did their system to balance things. Shell cheat on her $100k engineer or IT guy with a physical $40k warehouse guy. Theyll do the same with execs. Its safest to have a bodygame that bypass all professions. But still IT or engineer will gain you a demerit because theres a war on intellectuals in this country. Women dont like them.
That's the crazy part. They say to major in STEM because you can get a return on your investment, and because women like money. But women don't actually like you being an engineer or programmer: they just like the side effect of the money lol.
 

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That's the crazy part. They say to major in STEM because you can get a return on your investment, and because women like money. But women don't actually like you being an engineer or programmer: they just like the side effect of the money lol.
They ego don't like to say your "smarter" than them. Once you say engineer/IT/exec they are playing you for a SIMP. And if your not a SIMP they will play games to make you one. Asking you to do a bunch of shyt they know you shouldn't do.
 

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Thanks for all of the replies. Definitely helps for sure as I have been out this game for a minute.

In both of those cases however, I have not/will not text them. Starters, like it was mentioned before, texting is lame and really more for setting up a meet. I was surprised however when girl #2 jsut stopped texting because we could not meet that week. Again, no lost sleep but now something to keep aware of....and no more fluffy type text, I guess that is, well maybe shows my age. Girl #1 clearly wants me to chase and I won’t because I believe it should be mutual. Not tit for tat. I never minded texting provided that it was a conversation not an inquisition. Another non starter, the difference with this one is that I am sure I will see her again as I will likely goto her bar again....and I will act like nothing is wrong (because technically, nothing is wrong). I will be a gentleman and if she speaks, great, if not, I’ll take a Jamison neat.

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