"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Understanding female aggression

everywomanshero

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Men are more violent and physically aggressive than women, but women are more aggressive relationally & indirectly. In interpersonal relationships, women are more likely to be the abusive ones, but they are also the more likely to be *seriously, physically assualted*.

Thus, sometimes men get confused when women are aggressive relationally or verbally, but this makes perfect sense from a research perspective because it is living validation of everything that has been discovered.

So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this. I think awareness of this is really important, because this kind of thing is what causes a lot of men to hate on women. I am not justifying abusive actions, but rather I am saying it is something we need to learn to deal with efectively and without coming unglued and having our blood pressure go through the roof because it's not going to go away. It;s also a lot easier to deal with something like this than someone physically abusive, IMO, we should be glad it's not the other way around!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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everywomanshero said:
So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this
Abusers come in different forms shapes. Many women in America (and the world) have phsyically abused their husband's , which is a crime that seldomly being reported due to stigma and shame.

Many women also have verbally abused their husband's for many years and belittle them. The last thing a man wants after coming home from work and his daily grind to face a greater form of stress at home. Is it any wonder why some choose suicide over this??

The point is that you don't deal with it, but rather eliminate it from your life. If your woman either physically or verbally abuse you, get the fvck out of the relationship.
 
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