everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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Men are more violent and physically aggressive than women, but women are more aggressive relationally & indirectly. In interpersonal relationships, women are more likely to be the abusive ones, but they are also the more likely to be *seriously, physically assualted*.
Thus, sometimes men get confused when women are aggressive relationally or verbally, but this makes perfect sense from a research perspective because it is living validation of everything that has been discovered.
So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this. I think awareness of this is really important, because this kind of thing is what causes a lot of men to hate on women. I am not justifying abusive actions, but rather I am saying it is something we need to learn to deal with efectively and without coming unglued and having our blood pressure go through the roof because it's not going to go away. It;s also a lot easier to deal with something like this than someone physically abusive, IMO, we should be glad it's not the other way around!
Thus, sometimes men get confused when women are aggressive relationally or verbally, but this makes perfect sense from a research perspective because it is living validation of everything that has been discovered.
So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this. I think awareness of this is really important, because this kind of thing is what causes a lot of men to hate on women. I am not justifying abusive actions, but rather I am saying it is something we need to learn to deal with efectively and without coming unglued and having our blood pressure go through the roof because it's not going to go away. It;s also a lot easier to deal with something like this than someone physically abusive, IMO, we should be glad it's not the other way around!