"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Understanding female aggression

everywomanshero

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Men are more violent and physically aggressive than women, but women are more aggressive relationally & indirectly. In interpersonal relationships, women are more likely to be the abusive ones, but they are also the more likely to be *seriously, physically assualted*.

Thus, sometimes men get confused when women are aggressive relationally or verbally, but this makes perfect sense from a research perspective because it is living validation of everything that has been discovered.

So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this. I think awareness of this is really important, because this kind of thing is what causes a lot of men to hate on women. I am not justifying abusive actions, but rather I am saying it is something we need to learn to deal with efectively and without coming unglued and having our blood pressure go through the roof because it's not going to go away. It;s also a lot easier to deal with something like this than someone physically abusive, IMO, we should be glad it's not the other way around!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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everywomanshero said:
So the next time this happens, I think a man should realize that women do not mean to do this, this is an effect of socialization, it doesn't really mean anything about their characters are causing them to do this
Abusers come in different forms shapes. Many women in America (and the world) have phsyically abused their husband's , which is a crime that seldomly being reported due to stigma and shame.

Many women also have verbally abused their husband's for many years and belittle them. The last thing a man wants after coming home from work and his daily grind to face a greater form of stress at home. Is it any wonder why some choose suicide over this??

The point is that you don't deal with it, but rather eliminate it from your life. If your woman either physically or verbally abuse you, get the fvck out of the relationship.
 
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