"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Understanding Eye Contact

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How the hell does one use eye contact as an IOI?

I catch women staring at me, but when I look back at them, they just keep staring. When they do break eye contact, its never the down away type, its always straight to the side. But its normally quite lengthy, 2-3 seconds more often then not. Like they are trying to intimidate me.

Sometimes when I spot a bird at a distance, she catches me looking. Again, they stare at me like a deer in headlights, but then straight to the side, or sometimes down. Again, hard stare.

Now my macking skills are not bad. Got no problems aproaching women. Just hoping to better understand interest level without them flashing a smile or that quick look away like when you just caught them eyeing you out and they know it.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Have you ever heard of the *fvck me* look. This is that look. Married women with boyfriends often do it to guys they are very much attracted to. It's the longer deep intense stare that generates arousal.

In Sociology, it is referred to as the copulatory gaze. The gaze that takes place before two animals have sex.
 
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are you saying that you will be in some place, and a girl you don't know and never talked to or approached will gives you these looks, or girls you know?
 
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I never understood eye contact either. Perhaps i'm too conservative, but i always catch myself feeling self conscious about a female thinking i'm a serial killer, for giving her sexual eye contact!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
Have you ever heard of the *fvck me* look. This is that look. Married women with boyfriends often do it to guys they are very much attracted to. It's the longer deep intense stare that generates arousal.

In Sociology, it is referred to as the copulatory gaze. The gaze that takes place before two animals have sex.
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LOL, im familiar with that look... But eye contact is too broad... I get a Sh!t load of eye contact on the train but i dont think much of it.. i just see it as a "i think your attractive" look.
 
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Originally posted by FBA808
are you saying that you will be in some place, and a girl you don't know and never talked to or approached will gives you these looks, or girls you know?
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Women I dont know
 
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Hmmm yes I am just trying to work out eyecontact as well. I'm just a beginner to the whole DJ style but I like what I see here. I always use to look away but now I know to hold for a bit and smile.

I tried this yesterday as I walked past a chick that was in my area. She looked back but I didn't really get a smile I just got a look back she looked kind of shocked and shy.
 
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Originally posted by AgonyUncle
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when you've had eye contact for say 2 seconds, do you smile at them or just wait for them to look away?
 
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I wait for them to look away. Unless they really ugly, in which case, move along turd
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i wiggle my eyebrows and smirk, then hope the boyfriend doesnt beat the crap out of me.
 
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I usually walk around with Gunwitch method Eye contact, just undressing them with my eyes, if i find that they are holding Eye contact for more than 5 seconds then I take it as a AI. Also if I catch them trying to look from the corner of there eyes funny thing is they act like you can't see them looking. I don't really worry much about eye contact, when the interaction is interesting I keep eye contact and if I want to do a slight IOD I kinda break eye contact for awhile. Sometimes I don't even crack a smile it just kinda says it non verbally that I'm a safe guy, not exactly sure.
 
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try this guys..when talking to a girl next time- look down, then slowly blink as you look back up at her-now slightly squint your eyes, look at her lips ,scan her face,look up at her then look down,then slowly blink as you look back up at her as you are talking to her.Some may say that this signal submissiveness,
but in actuality is signals a strong attraction.
notice how you feel when you do this
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