"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Understanding Eye Contact

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How the hell does one use eye contact as an IOI?

I catch women staring at me, but when I look back at them, they just keep staring. When they do break eye contact, its never the down away type, its always straight to the side. But its normally quite lengthy, 2-3 seconds more often then not. Like they are trying to intimidate me.

Sometimes when I spot a bird at a distance, she catches me looking. Again, they stare at me like a deer in headlights, but then straight to the side, or sometimes down. Again, hard stare.

Now my macking skills are not bad. Got no problems aproaching women. Just hoping to better understand interest level without them flashing a smile or that quick look away like when you just caught them eyeing you out and they know it.

What are your thoughts
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have you ever heard of the *fvck me* look. This is that look. Married women with boyfriends often do it to guys they are very much attracted to. It's the longer deep intense stare that generates arousal.

In Sociology, it is referred to as the copulatory gaze. The gaze that takes place before two animals have sex.
 
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are you saying that you will be in some place, and a girl you don't know and never talked to or approached will gives you these looks, or girls you know?
 
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I never understood eye contact either. Perhaps i'm too conservative, but i always catch myself feeling self conscious about a female thinking i'm a serial killer, for giving her sexual eye contact!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
Have you ever heard of the *fvck me* look. This is that look. Married women with boyfriends often do it to guys they are very much attracted to. It's the longer deep intense stare that generates arousal.

In Sociology, it is referred to as the copulatory gaze. The gaze that takes place before two animals have sex.
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LOL, im familiar with that look... But eye contact is too broad... I get a Sh!t load of eye contact on the train but i dont think much of it.. i just see it as a "i think your attractive" look.
 
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Originally posted by FBA808
are you saying that you will be in some place, and a girl you don't know and never talked to or approached will gives you these looks, or girls you know?
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Women I dont know
 
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Hmmm yes I am just trying to work out eyecontact as well. I'm just a beginner to the whole DJ style but I like what I see here. I always use to look away but now I know to hold for a bit and smile.

I tried this yesterday as I walked past a chick that was in my area. She looked back but I didn't really get a smile I just got a look back she looked kind of shocked and shy.
 
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Originally posted by AgonyUncle
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when you've had eye contact for say 2 seconds, do you smile at them or just wait for them to look away?
 
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I wait for them to look away. Unless they really ugly, in which case, move along turd
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i wiggle my eyebrows and smirk, then hope the boyfriend doesnt beat the crap out of me.
 
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I usually walk around with Gunwitch method Eye contact, just undressing them with my eyes, if i find that they are holding Eye contact for more than 5 seconds then I take it as a AI. Also if I catch them trying to look from the corner of there eyes funny thing is they act like you can't see them looking. I don't really worry much about eye contact, when the interaction is interesting I keep eye contact and if I want to do a slight IOD I kinda break eye contact for awhile. Sometimes I don't even crack a smile it just kinda says it non verbally that I'm a safe guy, not exactly sure.
 
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try this guys..when talking to a girl next time- look down, then slowly blink as you look back up at her-now slightly squint your eyes, look at her lips ,scan her face,look up at her then look down,then slowly blink as you look back up at her as you are talking to her.Some may say that this signal submissiveness,
but in actuality is signals a strong attraction.
notice how you feel when you do this
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