"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Understand AFC and Need Advice

werdmaster

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So anyway I met this girl and I talked to her online and ****. I used some sexual comments because she seemed to respond well to them. Well, long story, short. My friends jokingly says "why doint u forget abotu him and come with me."
Shr goes" Yeah he kinda fruity. ok"
Now I have no idea if she was kidding or something. But I presume I went overboard with sexual comments. SO im gonna tone that sh*t down. But I cant get her off my mind . I finally understand teh AFC state of mind.
Basically I need soem advice from you guys on two things:
How do I resist the AFC feelings?
How do I get her to think I'm not weird?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Evil-Rom

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Originally posted by werdmaster
How do I resist the AFC feelings?
How do I get her to think I'm not weird?
I can answer both of those questions in 3 words.

"Read the Bible."
 

werdmaster

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Yeah turns out that my friend was joking with me. Its a good thign though, cuz I now know about that crappy AFC stuff. Never gonna do that again.
 

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How do I resist the AFC feelings?
Just do it. Think about something else, occupy yourself (ex. video games, NOT masturbation o_0), FIND OTHER PROSPECTS, etc... several ways dude.

How do I get her to think I'm not weird?
Does it really matter? If she thinks you're weird then thats her problem. She has to prove herself to you, not the other way around.

And if you are acting 'WEIRD' on purpose, then maybe uhh... stop acting weird? :/



Mikelo2k :cool:
 

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Originally posted by werdmaster
So anyway I met this girl and I talked to her online and ****. I used some sexual comments because she seemed to respond well to them. Well, long story, short. My friends jokingly says "why doint u forget abotu him and come with me."
Shr goes" Yeah he kinda fruity. ok"
Now I have no idea if she was kidding or something. But I presume I went overboard with sexual comments. SO im gonna tone that sh*t down. But I cant get her off my mind . I finally understand teh AFC state of mind.
Basically I need soem advice from you guys on two things:
How do I resist the AFC feelings?
How do I get her to think I'm not weird?
well i would say read the Bible . Get her to think your not wierd by not caring and weird is good - weird = individuality and charisma. She is going to remember you. Do you care if she thinks you are weird? - Don't. Who cares?

Resist the AFC feeling by reading motivational posts and remembering when you were successful at something. So you no longer feel average. Beat the frustration out (not that way;) ) via sports or something else.

Above all improve yourself until you are happy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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