Im sure Im not the only guy this has happened to but have you ever been in a crowded nightclub or restaurant restroom at the urninals and had the feeling the guy next to you was taking a little peek to see how he measures up or the guy stands out a bit for others to see? Have you ever done that out of curiousities sake and not being a h0mo? id guess its mostly curiosity or insecurity more than some guy being a h0mo but you don't know.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
foreverAFC
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Bumsniff said:
no.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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lmao
Actually, I've seen dudes at the urinal drop their pants and shorts to the ground and let their ass hang out... I always assumed they were queer...
Actually, I've seen dudes at the urinal drop their pants and shorts to the ground and let their ass hang out... I always assumed they were queer...
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No, I just take care of business and leave.
I don't really think about it.
I don't really think about it.
SgtSplacker
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Generally looking around in bathrooms yeilds dic-ks, sh-it and urine. I got over that sometime between learning to pee by myself and puberty...