"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Uncanny valley

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?

This morning, I had a fight or an argument with my brother and mother. They think Im too laidback and relaxed, they want me to settle down and raise a family already. The thing what people got to realize are most of the influential people on Earth suffered from the symptoms you just described, they thought differently from others and were outcast and shunned at their first attempts of their goals. The thing you got to remember in these situations is to stay calm and remain civil to those who do you wrong, you may talk back but unless you were violently provoked first, do not raise a fist as you can get in trouble with the laws.Try to Stay positive and calm with all your relationships and success is within your reach.
 

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?
People are rational animals, and I suspect much of the uncanny feelings are driven by the need for things to make sense, and to not feel right when things do not make sense. It's like the feeling of being disoriented.
 
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