"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Uncanny valley

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?

This morning, I had a fight or an argument with my brother and mother. They think Im too laidback and relaxed, they want me to settle down and raise a family already. The thing what people got to realize are most of the influential people on Earth suffered from the symptoms you just described, they thought differently from others and were outcast and shunned at their first attempts of their goals. The thing you got to remember in these situations is to stay calm and remain civil to those who do you wrong, you may talk back but unless you were violently provoked first, do not raise a fist as you can get in trouble with the laws.Try to Stay positive and calm with all your relationships and success is within your reach.
 

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Some faces feel wrong, not monstrous, not alien, but just close enough to human to be terrifying. You know the moment when you see it, something is off. Before your brain can even explain it, your body already knows. This isn't right. Throughout human evolution there was several different species of humans, and to survive our brains developed a response, we feel uncanny or earie when someone resembles a human being, but not quite. This psychological response was discovered independently in cinematography and robotics. It's an instinct.

A number of theories have been proposed to explain the cognitive mechanism causing the phenomenon, in our context the most important is this one:

Mate selection: Automatic, stimulus-driven appraisals of uncanny stimuli elicit aversion by activating an evolved cognitive mechanism for the avoidance of selecting mates with low fertility, poor hormonal health, or ineffective immune systems based on visible features of the face and body that are predictive of those traits.

In other words. In modern society, if you dress different, if you smell different, if you move different, if you act different to socially acceptable norms or otherwise is socially untuned, then you are triggering instincts in other people which makes them perceive you negatively. Females, and males, feel uncanny or earie around you, describing you as a crip.

Can you think of situations in which you have triggered the uncanny valley instinct in others?
People are rational animals, and I suspect much of the uncanny feelings are driven by the need for things to make sense, and to not feel right when things do not make sense. It's like the feeling of being disoriented.
 
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