"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Unbelievable twist in this relationship

DasaniWater

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Hey guys. Heres the deal.

I was in a 6 months relationship with my girl friend. she broke up with me 3 days ago. She told me she had a crush on this guy and liked someone else.

This made me cry and become a AFC.

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

It worked damn well, she called me yesterday and wanted me back, after seeing how happy i was, flirting with girls, playing the game, etc etc etc. So she calls me to go to her house. She told me she doesnt like anyone else but me and is still crazy about me and in love with me.

We make up and I eat her ***** out blah blah blah ( no sex). afterwards she got back into her old self she was 3 days ago. She starts by talking about how we cant be together forever, and how she cant commit because shes only 16 years old and all that crap. Well i really understood her. She went off and said she still had crushes on those other guys, which got me a bit pissed off, but i didnt make it seem like it, because earlier she said she didnt like them anymore and all that crap. So i just said i didnt care if she liked someone else, its human nature to have crushes, what matters is our love. And i asked her if she was willing to give us up just for a crush? And i told her to remember how it felt when she lost me.

So she told me how she couldnt just settle down so soon, how she wanted to experience life, and have freedom still. but she didnt want to lose me. So we made some sort of deal how we would still lvoe eachother and be together but we can flirt and all that crap with other people and be free, but still have eachother, we made adeal not to have sex with anyone else. I didnt like this deal one bit. I mean, if i love someone, why the hell do i wanna be with another girl?? Secondly, it sounds to me like we're just friends with benifits. But we kept kissing and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved eachother she told me how she wanted to marry me but not settle down soo soon and all that.

Okay, so the next day. we said we wouldnt let anyone know we came back together. now we both can do what we want, we dont even hang around as much as we did anymore, we dont talk to eachother the same, it just felt like seh was just a friend... this is what scares me.

How do i handle this? I mean we love eachother a big deal, but she likes other guys and doesnt want ot be tied down. This seems like a friends with benifits sort of thing, but this is what worries me, because since we interact just as friends, talk to eachother just as friends, do we just become friends???? Ive been fooling around and joking about if she met some guy or just as if i was actually encouraging her to go out with somene .. is this wrong? Or does this make me seem confident? Do i go back to my old lovey dovey self? I dont want to, i want to continue being a DJ. But if i dont chase her, or any of that, what if we just become friends???

I would really appreciate it to who anyone who helps, thanks a lot guys.

I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?


I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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scribblec

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she doesnt love you anymore, you should of realised this once she chose a crush over you, the only reason she took u back was because of jealousy and that is noway to sustain a long term relationship. move on and only have her as a friend with benifits who you use for sex because to put it bluntly thats all she is worth tbh.
 

S1NN3R

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You got played.

"I love you but I need freedom" means "I like the attention you give me, but I still want to play the field and weigh my options".

100% guaranteed, this relationship will not last the summer. Dump her before it gets any worse.
 

Damian

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NEXT HER. Go flirt with the other girls, have a good time with your own life. This girl is obviously off her friggin rock with that kind of behavior. Don't give her any sexual favors or special attention, that's just feeding a troll. Take your OWN life back.

-Damian
 

LikRetsam

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This is fvck buddy material. Nothing more.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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S1NN3R

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Docs said:
Who the hell is deleting posts?
I think you're confused since it's cross-posted in two sub-forums and this is the less popular incarnation.
 

Kidd

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she likes some other guy but wants to keep you around. Don't let her do this to you, its a trap.

If you want to keep screwing her, then be a little neglecting towards her; be aloof but dont be completely cold. But if you have strong feelings for her, chillax a little and let them settle down.
 

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I'm in the same dilemma and i've just been turning her into a sex freak and making her begging for more. I turned it around to less emotional and more physical. It's working becuase she's very busy with school and work and she spends most of her free time with me.

We started getting back together, didn't kiss just hung. I mention fooling around and we had crazy make up sex. Then we just escalated from there.

She doesn't talk to any other guys. I went away for 5 days and she calls and text's me how much she misses me and says that we're really meant for each other etc. Now I don't know where it will be going. It might go back into a relationship.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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