"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Unbelievable twist in this relationship

DasaniWater

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Hey guys. Heres the deal.

I was in a 6 months relationship with my girl friend. she broke up with me 3 days ago. She told me she had a crush on this guy and liked someone else.

This made me cry and become a AFC.

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

It worked damn well, she called me yesterday and wanted me back, after seeing how happy i was, flirting with girls, playing the game, etc etc etc. So she calls me to go to her house. She told me she doesnt like anyone else but me and is still crazy about me and in love with me.

We make up and I eat her ***** out blah blah blah ( no sex). afterwards she got back into her old self she was 3 days ago. She starts by talking about how we cant be together forever, and how she cant commit because shes only 16 years old and all that crap. Well i really understood her. She went off and said she still had crushes on those other guys, which got me a bit pissed off, but i didnt make it seem like it, because earlier she said she didnt like them anymore and all that crap. So i just said i didnt care if she liked someone else, its human nature to have crushes, what matters is our love. And i asked her if she was willing to give us up just for a crush? And i told her to remember how it felt when she lost me.

So she told me how she couldnt just settle down so soon, how she wanted to experience life, and have freedom still. but she didnt want to lose me. So we made some sort of deal how we would still lvoe eachother and be together but we can flirt and all that crap with other people and be free, but still have eachother, we made adeal not to have sex with anyone else. I didnt like this deal one bit. I mean, if i love someone, why the hell do i wanna be with another girl?? Secondly, it sounds to me like we're just friends with benifits. But we kept kissing and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved eachother she told me how she wanted to marry me but not settle down soo soon and all that.

Okay, so the next day. we said we wouldnt let anyone know we came back together. now we both can do what we want, we dont even hang around as much as we did anymore, we dont talk to eachother the same, it just felt like seh was just a friend... this is what scares me.

How do i handle this? I mean we love eachother a big deal, but she likes other guys and doesnt want ot be tied down. This seems like a friends with benifits sort of thing, but this is what worries me, because since we interact just as friends, talk to eachother just as friends, do we just become friends???? Ive been fooling around and joking about if she met some guy or just as if i was actually encouraging her to go out with somene .. is this wrong? Or does this make me seem confident? Do i go back to my old lovey dovey self? I dont want to, i want to continue being a DJ. But if i dont chase her, or any of that, what if we just become friends???

I would really appreciate it to who anyone who helps, thanks a lot guys.

I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?


I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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scribblec

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she doesnt love you anymore, you should of realised this once she chose a crush over you, the only reason she took u back was because of jealousy and that is noway to sustain a long term relationship. move on and only have her as a friend with benifits who you use for sex because to put it bluntly thats all she is worth tbh.
 

S1NN3R

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You got played.

"I love you but I need freedom" means "I like the attention you give me, but I still want to play the field and weigh my options".

100% guaranteed, this relationship will not last the summer. Dump her before it gets any worse.
 

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NEXT HER. Go flirt with the other girls, have a good time with your own life. This girl is obviously off her friggin rock with that kind of behavior. Don't give her any sexual favors or special attention, that's just feeding a troll. Take your OWN life back.

-Damian
 

LikRetsam

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This is fvck buddy material. Nothing more.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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S1NN3R

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Docs said:
Who the hell is deleting posts?
I think you're confused since it's cross-posted in two sub-forums and this is the less popular incarnation.
 

Kidd

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she likes some other guy but wants to keep you around. Don't let her do this to you, its a trap.

If you want to keep screwing her, then be a little neglecting towards her; be aloof but dont be completely cold. But if you have strong feelings for her, chillax a little and let them settle down.
 

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I'm in the same dilemma and i've just been turning her into a sex freak and making her begging for more. I turned it around to less emotional and more physical. It's working becuase she's very busy with school and work and she spends most of her free time with me.

We started getting back together, didn't kiss just hung. I mention fooling around and we had crazy make up sex. Then we just escalated from there.

She doesn't talk to any other guys. I went away for 5 days and she calls and text's me how much she misses me and says that we're really meant for each other etc. Now I don't know where it will be going. It might go back into a relationship.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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