For the last two months I have been talking to this married woman who is now getting divorced. I know she likes me and I like her, but I also know that at this workplace of her's there are scores of guys that are after her. I don't have her number, I never gave her mine, I was respectful of the fact that she was married. I flirt with her and tell her how much she would have fun with me and I tease her about all the guys that are after her. But I have not been pursuing her aggresively like others. I was involved with a married woman in the past and would not like to do that again. But now that she is getting divorced, I feel like I would like to get to know her better. I just don't want to fight for her affection. I don't want to compete with other guys. I am 32 yrs old and I have other things to worry about. What is the best way to go about this. Should I have her come to me? Should I just stand back and let her date (rebound) with other guys? The married woman I was involved with in the past fuvked with my head (she said she was getting divorced, but never did) so I don't want to get fuvked over with this girl. But I also would love to hook up with her cause she is very attractive. What do I do since she is finalizing her divorce???? I feel like if some other guy takes her out and she has fun, I will be regreting it. Thanks for your help. How the hell do I proceed here. No experience with girls who are getting divorced....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ummmm.........so there's this married girl.........
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Married women who are " getting a divorce" are risky business.
However that does not seem to deter a lot of you guys.
At best you might score a FB - at worst you will be used as "rebound guy" until some other chump takes her fancy at which time you will be Friendzoned.
If you insist on keeping this woman in your sights, then I suggest that you just stand off for a while and let her come to you.
However that does not seem to deter a lot of you guys.
At best you might score a FB - at worst you will be used as "rebound guy" until some other chump takes her fancy at which time you will be Friendzoned.
If you insist on keeping this woman in your sights, then I suggest that you just stand off for a while and let her come to you.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
I agree with Jop!! Speaking from experience I can say that he is dead on!!! I have dealt with women saying they are unhappy and getting a divorce/ or separated already. Then they never did! But they did enjoy their cake and eating it too.jophil28 said:
Then you have to worry with her if she does get a divorce will she be ready to play the field and leave you in the dust.
Chances are you already know what you want from this one and you will have to learn on your own.
Thanks guys, her divorce is being finalized this week. I guess I will just stand back and see what happens. She has her pick in so many guys. It's crazy how some guys don't care about wedding rings. I am not as aggresive, I don't like messing w married women. I would like to find my own. I have higher standards. But now that she is divorced, I thought maybe I should make a move. I don't know. Fuvk it.
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Rejection is better than regret.
Just heed the warnings that the other posters have already given you...but that doesn't mean you should not still go for it.
You'll never know unless you try so don't let your ego get in your own way.
Just heed the warnings that the other posters have already given you...but that doesn't mean you should not still go for it.
You'll never know unless you try so don't let your ego get in your own way.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
