For the last two months I have been talking to this married woman who is now getting divorced. I know she likes me and I like her, but I also know that at this workplace of her's there are scores of guys that are after her. I don't have her number, I never gave her mine, I was respectful of the fact that she was married. I flirt with her and tell her how much she would have fun with me and I tease her about all the guys that are after her. But I have not been pursuing her aggresively like others. I was involved with a married woman in the past and would not like to do that again. But now that she is getting divorced, I feel like I would like to get to know her better. I just don't want to fight for her affection. I don't want to compete with other guys. I am 32 yrs old and I have other things to worry about. What is the best way to go about this. Should I have her come to me? Should I just stand back and let her date (rebound) with other guys? The married woman I was involved with in the past fuvked with my head (she said she was getting divorced, but never did) so I don't want to get fuvked over with this girl. But I also would love to hook up with her cause she is very attractive. What do I do since she is finalizing her divorce???? I feel like if some other guy takes her out and she has fun, I will be regreting it. Thanks for your help. How the hell do I proceed here. No experience with girls who are getting divorced....
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ummmm.........so there's this married girl.........
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Married women who are " getting a divorce" are risky business.
However that does not seem to deter a lot of you guys.
At best you might score a FB - at worst you will be used as "rebound guy" until some other chump takes her fancy at which time you will be Friendzoned.
If you insist on keeping this woman in your sights, then I suggest that you just stand off for a while and let her come to you.
However that does not seem to deter a lot of you guys.
At best you might score a FB - at worst you will be used as "rebound guy" until some other chump takes her fancy at which time you will be Friendzoned.
If you insist on keeping this woman in your sights, then I suggest that you just stand off for a while and let her come to you.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
I agree with Jop!! Speaking from experience I can say that he is dead on!!! I have dealt with women saying they are unhappy and getting a divorce/ or separated already. Then they never did! But they did enjoy their cake and eating it too.jophil28 said:
Then you have to worry with her if she does get a divorce will she be ready to play the field and leave you in the dust.
Chances are you already know what you want from this one and you will have to learn on your own.
Thanks guys, her divorce is being finalized this week. I guess I will just stand back and see what happens. She has her pick in so many guys. It's crazy how some guys don't care about wedding rings. I am not as aggresive, I don't like messing w married women. I would like to find my own. I have higher standards. But now that she is divorced, I thought maybe I should make a move. I don't know. Fuvk it.
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Rejection is better than regret.
Just heed the warnings that the other posters have already given you...but that doesn't mean you should not still go for it.
You'll never know unless you try so don't let your ego get in your own way.
Just heed the warnings that the other posters have already given you...but that doesn't mean you should not still go for it.
You'll never know unless you try so don't let your ego get in your own way.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
