"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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UltrasLevski

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Hello guys. A friend of mine directed me to this forum about a week ago and now I decided to post.
A little about me - I am 17 from Sofia,Bulgaria; 11th grade(we have 12, so almost finished high school). My mother is from Moscow, while my father is Bulgarian , so I am half Russian(no, I don't drink a lot, but yes I can still take in a huge amount of alcohol). I am tall- I used to be a competitive swimmer, I went swimming for 9 years, but a month ago I started Capoeira - Brazilian martial art.
Blond hair, blue eyes... that's me.
Now - to the main question. Girls like me, I had girlfriends, now I am single. I am social, almost never miss a football game, I go out with friends - bars, parties, etc. Problem is - I am not much of a ''hook up'' type, but that's what I intend to become. This summer we went on a holiday with the school, there was an awesome girl. I liked her, she liked me and just because I was a total pussay we didn't hook up and then I decided to change.
So, thanks for reading, I'll post whenever I can , please write your advises!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Libertine

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I'm the friend that directed him here. Ultras is a great guy,but from what I've noticed he's picky and has some flaws in the way he communicates with girls,mainly being needy at times and using barely any KINO. Otherwise,he has potential so I can see him becoming a ***** destroyer. Между другото,забих се с Ивет.
 

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I will.

So today I went training after school. There also goes a friend of mine, who shows me some advanced impressive jumps. Right now I'm trying to improve my butterfly jump, cause girls really love it.
At Saturday I'll go on short acrobatic course to learn something new. Then we have a workout and in the evening - of course a party.
I'm really looking forward to it , cause with every party I'm pushing my comfort zone and improve the way I talk to girls. My biggest problem so far is not using any KINO, which as I've been told is absolutely necessary.
Monday 10.12.2012
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LearningSlowly

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That guide is helpful. In our society people are STARVED for touch. When you touch them, they instantly have an affinity toward you. Putting a friendly hand on a guys shoulder is a cue to him that you're alpha. I have a girlfriend now. Touching her on the first date (we were holding hands as soon as we left my dorm) was the biggest signal that we liked each other.
 

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So as i understood the main concept is Smile. Eye Contact. Kino. Killer Instinct. Done Deal.
Tomorrow there's a huge party with people of my age from all the schools in Sofia. Dancing and drinking while listening to one of my favorite bands- if nothing shows up I'll definitely go.
But i was thinking - which is more DJish - shirt or sweatshirt, but there's time to decide.

Anyways today I went training, I go for almost 2 months and I already feel that soon the gravity just won't work for me. This sport is probably the greatest thing I could start. Also it gives me confidence when talking to girls.
That's it for now , I am open for any advises and critics. :up:
 

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Smile. Eye Contact. Kino. Killer Instinct. Done Deal.
YES!

DJ says : Shirt or sweatshirt?
If it is warm : shirt
If it is cool : sweatshirt :up:

Personally if it's cool I wear a t-shirt with a jacket, but that's me.
Do what ya want, you don't need mental masturbation over what you will wear!
 

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Last night went to a bar with some friends ready to put the new knowledge in use and when we got in I saw there were practically no girls. I mean there were some but here's the problem - I am 17 ; girls at bars are around 24. So it is quite impossible to hook up with them and even if it's not, I prefer girls my age.
 

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Atleast see if you can get to know them. I'd love to hook up with a hot, older woman. Even so, an older friend can be of great use.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What use can I get from an older female friend, 'cause my ex-girlfriend is 20 right now. Well I actually don't keep contact with her, but her twin sister is a nice friend. So how to use that exactly ?
 

LearningSlowly

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Unfortunately it's impossible to use people. If you ever plan to use a friend to get some reward, your plan will always be completely off-base. Plans like that rarely have any connection to reality.

If anything, you use her by hanging out with her and being your outgoing, interesting self. That can lead to all sorts of good things, especially in a bar.
 
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