"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Uh oh. I'm in a rut. Boring?? Need help.

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So I figured out what's been getting me down. I'm not depressed, I'm bored which is making me depressed. I've been focusing alot on school and work. I haven't been partying at all... or general fun.

Soo... how to have fun. What is fun?

So far I'm making a list of stupid & fun things to do:
- Flaming doggie bag + doorbell with some friends. Haven't done it. Got to.
- Paying for a ridiculously large purchase in pennies and nickles. So far I have ~$40.
- Get slapped by at least one chick (preferably two in the same sitting) for being a pig.


Help me build this list!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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-make a list of stupid and fun things to do
-make a list of stupid and fun things not to do
 

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Alle_Gory said:
So I figured out what's been getting me down. I'm not depressed, I'm bored which is making me depressed. I've been focusing alot on school and work. I haven't been partying at all... or general fun.

Soo... how to have fun. What is fun?

So far I'm making a list of stupid & fun things to do:
- Flaming doggie bag + doorbell with some friends. Haven't done it. Got to.
- Paying for a ridiculously large purchase in pennies and nickles. So far I have ~$40.
- Get slapped by at least one chick (preferably two in the same sitting) for being a pig.


Help me build this list!
Please tell me you are kidding, because if you are not, you are acting like a 5 year old. How about volunteering? Learning a new language? Joining a club? Taking in some sports? Reading books? Going to museums? Exercising? Making new friends?

What girl is going to be charmed by you paying for some item in pennies? How does that excite her? How does that teach her something new? How does that make her knees weak?
 

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What girl is going to be charmed by you paying for some item in pennies? How does that excite her? How does that teach her something new? How does that make her knees weak?
I agree with you its silly, but i dont think he was after a girl he just wants fun
 

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go skydiving
go hiking
go people watching
read a book
study a new language
meet new people

Ff you feel you're boring try to do things that will create good stories to tell to people, or you could just make them up I guess.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonJuan11 said:
Please tell me you are kidding, because if you are not, you are acting like a 5 year old. How about volunteering? Learning a new language? Joining a club? Taking in some sports? Reading books? Going to museums? Exercising? Making new friends?
I assure you I do not act like a child. In fact I am far too 'mature'.

Volunteering sounds great. Haven't done that in awhile.

What girl is going to be charmed by you paying for some item in pennies? How does that excite her? How does that teach her something new? How does that make her knees weak?
LOL. That's not what I meant.
I could care less if I charm the cashier. I just want to be a d!ck because its funny.


Thanks for your input. Anything else? I like where you were going with the volunteer idea.




Idkmyname said:
Ff you feel you're boring try to do things that will create good stories to tell to people, or you could just make them up I guess.
Can't do that. I try not to lie. I have no problem omitting information and being vague... :)

go skydiving - nope. not yet. expensive too.
go hiking - good idea.
go people watching - can't see how that's interesting but i'll give it a shot
read a book - i've done enough reading.
study a new language - great idea. maybe i can find a latino girl to teach me spanish.
meet new people - yup. working on that.
Thanks dude. Great list.
 

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OP - i asked a question similar to yours several months ago, was looking for things to do to kill the time and entertain me. one of the best things i did was learn to juggle. give it a go
 
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