Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ugh.. This Girl

tomcat2007

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Hey guys me again. This girl who lives in my neighbourhood had originally turned me down for a date Saturday night.(Something casual-a bite to eat.) Of course I was dissapointed but didnt tell her. She had gotten back to me later this evening and asked me if I wanted to go for coffee on Saturday night. However she is making no guarntees about it. In relation to this, I said no worries, no big deal if nothing materializes. This girl orginally was flaking and now is deflaking. Is she actually interested or is she covering her tracks. FACK SAKES! Cheers from the Thomcat!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wjh

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She could be bored.

Make her jump through some hoops to test her interest. Say no to coffee on her terms but reschedule on yours. Do this before spending a dime. If there is genuine interest she will oblige. If not, you're just spinning your wheels.

Spin more plates.
 

Prodigy746

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WHAT EVER YOU DO, DO NOT PAY FOR HER. Above poster makes a good point, you should do it on your terms not hers. She is feeling like she has a boy toy now.
 

Jitterbug

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wjh said:
She could be bored.
People only go for a coffee on a Saturday night if they're really really bored with nothing better to do.

Counter her offer (since she asked you, it means that she's supposedly free on that night) with something else on your term at the same time, but more exciting than coffee.
 
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