"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ugh...finding out a woman is married

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So last night I'm at a birthday party of a female friend. She brought two of her friends from work, both of which were coming on to me. The one coming on to me the most blatently I was not attracted to at all. The other was this cute blonde girl who was making me drinks and giving me the look and IOIs. So I made her my target. After some conversation, there was a lot of kino really quick, I had my arms around her while talking, she was using every opportunity to touch against me and amp up the flirting, grabbing my hand and leading me to walk with her and all that stuff. So then my friend who brought her whispers in my ear, "just so you know, she is married and has a 2 year old kid." I'm like WTF?!??!?! I was so damn pissed off. I still continued dancing with her and talking, but knew I couldn't take things any further even if I wanted because everyone there knows she's married and I'd look like the big assh*le trying to make out with a girl I know is married.

I got pretty f*cking pissed of thinking that it's just my luck that the single girl coming on to me was not attractive, and the cute one coming on to me is married. I guess I just got to get out there more. Hmph. :mad:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LOL, are you sure your friend wasn't pulling a mean prank on you?
 

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KontrollerX said:
LOL, are you sure your friend wasn't pulling a mean prank on you?
No, and you can be sure I asked her if she was sh*ttin' me numerous times. Plus it was verified by other girls there that know her and said I better not try anything with her.

Well, I'm going to try to make it out to beach today, hopefully I can find some new prospects.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've found that married women flirt the most, followed closely by girls in long LTRs.

I think that they just want to make sure they're still attractive.
 

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very true, Serialized

f*cking hors

and imo, you shouldn't have kept dancing/flirting with her. You were right to be pissed, and you shoulda just dropped her. I know that's kinda hard to do sometimes.
 

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Don't give your precious attention to undeserving AWs. ESPECIALLY IF they are fvcking MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Imagine if that WAS YOUR Freakin' WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!
 

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Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!

Do you have the whole list? I'd be interested in reading the other rules.
 

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Obsidian said:
very true, Serialized

f*cking hors

and imo, you shouldn't have kept dancing/flirting with her. You were right to be pissed, and you shoulda just dropped her. I know that's kinda hard to do sometimes.
Keep in mind she never revealed her status to me the whole night. I found out from my friend, not because she told me. I don't even recall seeing a ring on her finger, though I was too drunk to really be paying attention anyway.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Interceptor said:
Don't give your precious attention to undeserving AWs. ESPECIALLY IF they are fvcking MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Imagine if that WAS YOUR Freakin' WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!

Relax dude, it's not like I made out with her, I only danced with her.
 

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speakeasy said:
Relax dude, it's not like I made out with her, I only danced with her.
Well, I think you did the right thing about not taking it further.

Why fool around with a married chick? It's too easy to find a single chick to fool around with, to deal with married ones.

As men, (and I know we don't owe each other a damn thing), we should respect each other, at least for being men, and not f*ck around with each other's wives.
 

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Mr.Positive said:
As men, (and I know we don't owe each other a damn thing), we should respect each other, at least for being men, and not f*ck around with each other's wives.
Even if we don't respect each other, don't fvck with other's wives just to avoid the drama and hassle that would follow. :D

Just wives in general. Don't even be friends with them. Don't talk to them, or look at them!! ITS CHEATING! CHEAAATING!!

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*ahem*
 

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speakeasy said:
The other was this cute blonde girl who was making me drinks and giving me the look and IOIs.

Women, especially married women, do that often.


It's like fishing. They let you bite, and once you bite, they let you know they married. Big a55 ego boost for her.


Trick is to not take that I'm married thing up your a55 and proceed to fvcking her. So you could have the last laught.
 

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Ok, so now I just logged into my myspace page and see that the married chic sent me an email. She found my page through a mutual friend. This is getting interesting.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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