"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ugh...finding out a woman is married

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So last night I'm at a birthday party of a female friend. She brought two of her friends from work, both of which were coming on to me. The one coming on to me the most blatently I was not attracted to at all. The other was this cute blonde girl who was making me drinks and giving me the look and IOIs. So I made her my target. After some conversation, there was a lot of kino really quick, I had my arms around her while talking, she was using every opportunity to touch against me and amp up the flirting, grabbing my hand and leading me to walk with her and all that stuff. So then my friend who brought her whispers in my ear, "just so you know, she is married and has a 2 year old kid." I'm like WTF?!??!?! I was so damn pissed off. I still continued dancing with her and talking, but knew I couldn't take things any further even if I wanted because everyone there knows she's married and I'd look like the big assh*le trying to make out with a girl I know is married.

I got pretty f*cking pissed of thinking that it's just my luck that the single girl coming on to me was not attractive, and the cute one coming on to me is married. I guess I just got to get out there more. Hmph. :mad:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LOL, are you sure your friend wasn't pulling a mean prank on you?
 

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KontrollerX said:
LOL, are you sure your friend wasn't pulling a mean prank on you?
No, and you can be sure I asked her if she was sh*ttin' me numerous times. Plus it was verified by other girls there that know her and said I better not try anything with her.

Well, I'm going to try to make it out to beach today, hopefully I can find some new prospects.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've found that married women flirt the most, followed closely by girls in long LTRs.

I think that they just want to make sure they're still attractive.
 

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very true, Serialized

f*cking hors

and imo, you shouldn't have kept dancing/flirting with her. You were right to be pissed, and you shoulda just dropped her. I know that's kinda hard to do sometimes.
 

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Don't give your precious attention to undeserving AWs. ESPECIALLY IF they are fvcking MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Imagine if that WAS YOUR Freakin' WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!
 

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Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!

Do you have the whole list? I'd be interested in reading the other rules.
 

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Obsidian said:
very true, Serialized

f*cking hors

and imo, you shouldn't have kept dancing/flirting with her. You were right to be pissed, and you shoulda just dropped her. I know that's kinda hard to do sometimes.
Keep in mind she never revealed her status to me the whole night. I found out from my friend, not because she told me. I don't even recall seeing a ring on her finger, though I was too drunk to really be paying attention anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interceptor said:
Don't give your precious attention to undeserving AWs. ESPECIALLY IF they are fvcking MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Imagine if that WAS YOUR Freakin' WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Man Rule no 32:
Don't give attention to Attention Wh0res.

Man Rule no 2:
Don't fvck around with another Man's Wife. She could have been your Wife......
How would you feel, fvcker??!

Relax dude, it's not like I made out with her, I only danced with her.
 

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speakeasy said:
Relax dude, it's not like I made out with her, I only danced with her.
Well, I think you did the right thing about not taking it further.

Why fool around with a married chick? It's too easy to find a single chick to fool around with, to deal with married ones.

As men, (and I know we don't owe each other a damn thing), we should respect each other, at least for being men, and not f*ck around with each other's wives.
 

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Mr.Positive said:
As men, (and I know we don't owe each other a damn thing), we should respect each other, at least for being men, and not f*ck around with each other's wives.
Even if we don't respect each other, don't fvck with other's wives just to avoid the drama and hassle that would follow. :D

Just wives in general. Don't even be friends with them. Don't talk to them, or look at them!! ITS CHEATING! CHEAAATING!!

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*ahem*
 

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speakeasy said:
The other was this cute blonde girl who was making me drinks and giving me the look and IOIs.

Women, especially married women, do that often.


It's like fishing. They let you bite, and once you bite, they let you know they married. Big a55 ego boost for her.


Trick is to not take that I'm married thing up your a55 and proceed to fvcking her. So you could have the last laught.
 

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Ok, so now I just logged into my myspace page and see that the married chic sent me an email. She found my page through a mutual friend. This is getting interesting.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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