Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I just order around the ones that can't cook. They can peel, chop, pour, measure, clean, whatever (good qualifier to see how she reacts to given directions). You've gotta use whatever opportunity you have available to learn how women operate. You shouldn't just do things for her entertainment, you've gotta find out if she's actually worth your time.amoka said:
Don't forget, if you are doing the cooking, call her up before hand with a list of groceries for her to pick up when she's on her way over. You don't even need to tell her what you're preparing, she'll love the mystery. This is a regular staple in my arsenal.amoka said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If a woman can't handle a man that can cook he shouldn't be with her, who needs that kind of childish drama. And as for a woman preparing me a meal after sex, she can just throw a frozen pizza in the oven for all I care. There's many more important traits that a woman should have than being able to cook a meal.ElChoclo said: