"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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U call her for the first time and... (a Unique problem)

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Umm, So i got this chick's number and called her today but she didn't pick up nor returned my call.

Also, consider the following
She didn't know who called her because I didn't give her my cellphone number yet

and I didn't leave a message on her answering machine telling who it was who called


SOOOO, should I or would it be ok to:

A. call her the same day again until she picks up
b. call her tomorrow and hope she picks up again
c. call her and if she doesn't pick up, let her know that it was me who called
d. leave her text message letting her know it was me

anyone been in this situation? let me know how you would handle this

Thanks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Babnik

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Always leave a damn message... you wussied to leave one and you expect to not wuss out when making a move?
 

verysuave

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i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
 

Babnik

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Listen more to them guys... Many girls won't pick up their phone if its NO ID or some foreign phone number.

So, leave a freaking a message.
 

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verysuave said:
i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
It applies to your level of game, and what works for you.

Usually, I'll drop a message, call me back, and I'm off to do whatever else. No big deal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
 

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Giovanni Casanova said:
Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
:crackup:

Seriuously though, leave a message. Just don't do it 20 times obviously.
 

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I called once, and her mother told me that i had the wrong number. I then went to my friend's gf(her friend) and asked her what her # was, and it was the same number.

i called again in 5 minutes and she picked up
:rockon:
 

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Alot of ppl won't pick up the phone if they don't know recognize the number or name, me included.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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All I ever do is call without blocking ID, and leave a very brief message ("Hi, this is {my first name}, call me at {best # to call me} when you get a chance"). Or if there's something I want to invite them to join in, I might mention that. The interested ones always call back.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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definitely "A. call her the same day again until she picks up"

but really.

call once... call again the same day a few hours later or the next day and if no answer, leave a message saying who it is, and your number. cut to the point.

and how the hell is this a unique problem?

its as typical as it gets... you get a chicks number... and obviously she wont know your number unless you tell it to her thru voicemail... or if she answers, or if she gets it some other time.
 
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