"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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U call her for the first time and... (a Unique problem)

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Umm, So i got this chick's number and called her today but she didn't pick up nor returned my call.

Also, consider the following
She didn't know who called her because I didn't give her my cellphone number yet

and I didn't leave a message on her answering machine telling who it was who called


SOOOO, should I or would it be ok to:

A. call her the same day again until she picks up
b. call her tomorrow and hope she picks up again
c. call her and if she doesn't pick up, let her know that it was me who called
d. leave her text message letting her know it was me

anyone been in this situation? let me know how you would handle this

Thanks!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Babnik

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Always leave a damn message... you wussied to leave one and you expect to not wuss out when making a move?
 

verysuave

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i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
 

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Listen more to them guys... Many girls won't pick up their phone if its NO ID or some foreign phone number.

So, leave a freaking a message.
 

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verysuave said:
i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
It applies to your level of game, and what works for you.

Usually, I'll drop a message, call me back, and I'm off to do whatever else. No big deal.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
 

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Giovanni Casanova said:
Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
:crackup:

Seriuously though, leave a message. Just don't do it 20 times obviously.
 

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I called once, and her mother told me that i had the wrong number. I then went to my friend's gf(her friend) and asked her what her # was, and it was the same number.

i called again in 5 minutes and she picked up
:rockon:
 

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Alot of ppl won't pick up the phone if they don't know recognize the number or name, me included.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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All I ever do is call without blocking ID, and leave a very brief message ("Hi, this is {my first name}, call me at {best # to call me} when you get a chance"). Or if there's something I want to invite them to join in, I might mention that. The interested ones always call back.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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definitely "A. call her the same day again until she picks up"

but really.

call once... call again the same day a few hours later or the next day and if no answer, leave a message saying who it is, and your number. cut to the point.

and how the hell is this a unique problem?

its as typical as it gets... you get a chicks number... and obviously she wont know your number unless you tell it to her thru voicemail... or if she answers, or if she gets it some other time.
 
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