"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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U call her for the first time and... (a Unique problem)

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Umm, So i got this chick's number and called her today but she didn't pick up nor returned my call.

Also, consider the following
She didn't know who called her because I didn't give her my cellphone number yet

and I didn't leave a message on her answering machine telling who it was who called


SOOOO, should I or would it be ok to:

A. call her the same day again until she picks up
b. call her tomorrow and hope she picks up again
c. call her and if she doesn't pick up, let her know that it was me who called
d. leave her text message letting her know it was me

anyone been in this situation? let me know how you would handle this

Thanks!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Babnik

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Always leave a damn message... you wussied to leave one and you expect to not wuss out when making a move?
 

verysuave

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i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
 

Babnik

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Listen more to them guys... Many girls won't pick up their phone if its NO ID or some foreign phone number.

So, leave a freaking a message.
 

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verysuave said:
i thought u guys said here "NOT" to leave a message or does this only apply on first time calls?
It applies to your level of game, and what works for you.

Usually, I'll drop a message, call me back, and I'm off to do whatever else. No big deal.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
 

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Giovanni Casanova said:
Wow, this is INDEED a unique problem! Nobody has ever called a girl and gotten her voice mail before! I applaud you, sir, for your trailblazing sense of discovery!

Next time, please laud us with your totally new, heretofore unknown tales of meeting girls in bars!

After that, perhaps you could clue us all in on the hot new trend of girls who say, "I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out!

I, for one, am always ready to hear about these excitingly unique problems!
:crackup:

Seriuously though, leave a message. Just don't do it 20 times obviously.
 

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I called once, and her mother told me that i had the wrong number. I then went to my friend's gf(her friend) and asked her what her # was, and it was the same number.

i called again in 5 minutes and she picked up
:rockon:
 

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Alot of ppl won't pick up the phone if they don't know recognize the number or name, me included.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All I ever do is call without blocking ID, and leave a very brief message ("Hi, this is {my first name}, call me at {best # to call me} when you get a chance"). Or if there's something I want to invite them to join in, I might mention that. The interested ones always call back.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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definitely "A. call her the same day again until she picks up"

but really.

call once... call again the same day a few hours later or the next day and if no answer, leave a message saying who it is, and your number. cut to the point.

and how the hell is this a unique problem?

its as typical as it gets... you get a chicks number... and obviously she wont know your number unless you tell it to her thru voicemail... or if she answers, or if she gets it some other time.
 
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