Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DJF or John said:Let's all go to GNC and buy some Creatine pills and spend 8 hours a day in the gym, and we'll all get laid like this Dobe claims he does.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
blah, blah, blah..DJF or John said:Dobe of Getting Laid says,
"Heres one of the best tips youll get in this thread. Keep in mind, Im trying to help you by giving you a no bullsh1t assessment of reality so you can make better decisions to improve yourself."
For what? Have you not gotta the point that no one really listens to you?
"SS AND NLP BASED GAME DOES NOT WORK. DO NOT USE IT!"
Yeah here he goes. This is just an opening for someone to start talking about why NLP works, then the Dobe starts talking about Looks Matter again.
Let's all go to GNC and buy some Creatine pills and spend 8 hours a day in the gym, and we'll all get laid like this Dobe claims he does.
You obviously don't go to the gym very often. If you spend anywhere near 8 hours in the gym a day, you're losing WAY more muscle than you're gaining.DJF or John said:Let's all go to GNC and buy some Creatine pills and spend 8 hours a day in the gym, and we'll all get laid like this Dobe claims he does.
you have to forgive DJF, hes a real idiot. All of what you are saying is too much for him to grasp. He may have down syndrome.Call_Me_Daddy said:You obviously don't go to the gym very often. If you spend anywhere near 8 hours in the gym a day, you're losing WAY more muscle than you're gaining.
Even pro bodybuilders don't even spend near half as much time in the gym, and they do it for a living.
BTW, didn't you already get banned 5 or 6 times already for going psycho?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NLP - neurolinguistic programmingazanon said:I need a quick reminder of what NLP and SS (based games) stands for.
um, doesnt ss stand for Speed seduction, you know, Ross Jeffries' crap.TillTheEndOfTime said:NLP - neurolinguistic programming
SS - sexual state
yeah probably, I don't pay much attention to these techniques, I just remember what terms I hear get thrown around.God_of_getting_layed said:um, doesnt ss stand for Speed seduction, you know, Ross Jeffries' crap.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In this instance I believe the SS reference was toward Speed Seduction.TillTheEndOfTime said:NLP - neurolinguistic programming
SS - sexual state
Call_Me_Daddy said:trobbing
pulsing
gazing
****ing
Be sure to roll your r's and draw out your e-sounds just the rrrright wayeee.rich Corinthian leather
Gotta work on rolling those damn "r's."Bonhomme said:Be sure to roll your r's and draw out your e-sounds just the rrrright wayeee.
Reeeccchh Corrreeeenthhian leather
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.