"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Typical Dating BS those out of the game don't deal with

Reyaj

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This weekend I went out to this bar and approached a girl I saw with her friend at the bar. Things went well and I got her number. Sent a same night text to which she responded favorably.

Sunday I didn't contact as I was recovering but last night I called and she picked up. I said how's it going and the phone seemed to disconnect.
I texted back "I guess that went well lol" She responded back a short while later "sorry I'm on the train and I lost service" I responded back "no worries I'll be up for a bit if you want to talk when you get in"

Nothing after that... and nothing today... Glad I'm getting out of this BS lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are chasing my friend. I would have waited for her to call you back after the call was disconnected. It would have been a good way to gauge interest.
 

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Lol no call got disconnected, you got hung up on. Stick with texting. When she replied favorably the first night you should have done the same a couple days later.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The line “I guess that went well, lol” blew you up.

You sound sarcastic, butthurt and unreasonable all at once by throwing out that line.

If it were me and a guy did that? Even if I had a nice time with him? Grounds for dismissal due to unreasonable controlling vibe that line creates. Cringe worthy in my book.

I know I’m busting your chops here but next time give someone the benefit of the doubt and exercise more patience.

As it stands now say nothing else. If she reaches out in the coming days be chill and respond. Otherwise let it lie.

Cheers
 

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The line “I guess that went well, lol” blew you up.

You sound sarcastic, butthurt and unreasonable all at once by throwing out that line.

If it were me and a guy did that? Even if I had a nice time with him? Grounds for dismissal due to unreasonable controlling vibe that line creates. Cringe worthy in my book.

I know I’m busting your chops here but next time give someone the benefit of the doubt and exercise more patience.

As it stands now say nothing else. If she reaches out in the coming days be chill and respond. Otherwise let it lie.

Cheers
your a male, why pretend to be a female?
 

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I read the line as a light hearted joke, like "well the line got cut off, just my luck." But I can see how it'd be open to different interpretations. I didn't see anything controlling about it though.
i think the person stated controlling as in, trying to force a response in a passive aggressive tone.
 

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I read the line as a light hearted joke, like "well the line got cut off, just my luck." But I can see how it'd be open to different interpretations. I didn't see anything controlling about it though.
Agreed. Beexcellent is reading way too much into OPs response. I personally don't date women who take things too seriously because I like to joke around so if the woman in the story saw it the same as beexcellent, I'd say it's a good thing she ghosted.
 

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This weekend I went out to this bar and approached a girl I saw with her friend at the bar. Things went well and I got her number. Sent a same night text to which she responded favorably.

Sunday I didn't contact as I was recovering but last night I called and she picked up. I said how's it going and the phone seemed to disconnect.
I texted back "I guess that went well lol" She responded back a short while later "sorry I'm on the train and I lost service" I responded back "no worries I'll be up for a bit if you want to talk when you get in"

Nothing after that... and nothing today... Glad I'm getting out of this BS lol
Yeah, this is typical of the bull**** that woman do when they're not interested. Women don't say no, they bull**** and after a while you learn to smell it from far away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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