"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Typical Dating BS those out of the game don't deal with

Reyaj

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This weekend I went out to this bar and approached a girl I saw with her friend at the bar. Things went well and I got her number. Sent a same night text to which she responded favorably.

Sunday I didn't contact as I was recovering but last night I called and she picked up. I said how's it going and the phone seemed to disconnect.
I texted back "I guess that went well lol" She responded back a short while later "sorry I'm on the train and I lost service" I responded back "no worries I'll be up for a bit if you want to talk when you get in"

Nothing after that... and nothing today... Glad I'm getting out of this BS lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mazer

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You are chasing my friend. I would have waited for her to call you back after the call was disconnected. It would have been a good way to gauge interest.
 

Robert28

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Lol no call got disconnected, you got hung up on. Stick with texting. When she replied favorably the first night you should have done the same a couple days later.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BeExcellent

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The line “I guess that went well, lol” blew you up.

You sound sarcastic, butthurt and unreasonable all at once by throwing out that line.

If it were me and a guy did that? Even if I had a nice time with him? Grounds for dismissal due to unreasonable controlling vibe that line creates. Cringe worthy in my book.

I know I’m busting your chops here but next time give someone the benefit of the doubt and exercise more patience.

As it stands now say nothing else. If she reaches out in the coming days be chill and respond. Otherwise let it lie.

Cheers
 

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The line “I guess that went well, lol” blew you up.

You sound sarcastic, butthurt and unreasonable all at once by throwing out that line.

If it were me and a guy did that? Even if I had a nice time with him? Grounds for dismissal due to unreasonable controlling vibe that line creates. Cringe worthy in my book.

I know I’m busting your chops here but next time give someone the benefit of the doubt and exercise more patience.

As it stands now say nothing else. If she reaches out in the coming days be chill and respond. Otherwise let it lie.

Cheers
your a male, why pretend to be a female?
 

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I read the line as a light hearted joke, like "well the line got cut off, just my luck." But I can see how it'd be open to different interpretations. I didn't see anything controlling about it though.
i think the person stated controlling as in, trying to force a response in a passive aggressive tone.
 

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I read the line as a light hearted joke, like "well the line got cut off, just my luck." But I can see how it'd be open to different interpretations. I didn't see anything controlling about it though.
Agreed. Beexcellent is reading way too much into OPs response. I personally don't date women who take things too seriously because I like to joke around so if the woman in the story saw it the same as beexcellent, I'd say it's a good thing she ghosted.
 

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This weekend I went out to this bar and approached a girl I saw with her friend at the bar. Things went well and I got her number. Sent a same night text to which she responded favorably.

Sunday I didn't contact as I was recovering but last night I called and she picked up. I said how's it going and the phone seemed to disconnect.
I texted back "I guess that went well lol" She responded back a short while later "sorry I'm on the train and I lost service" I responded back "no worries I'll be up for a bit if you want to talk when you get in"

Nothing after that... and nothing today... Glad I'm getting out of this BS lol
Yeah, this is typical of the bull**** that woman do when they're not interested. Women don't say no, they bull**** and after a while you learn to smell it from far away.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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